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I really can't believe this - am bewildered and shocked at DH

122 replies

strangesituation · 12/02/2008 14:23

Ok, before I start I am a MN regular and have been since my first DC was born in 2001. I remember the supermarket grapes, the river of sweetcorn, all the thread on breast V bottle and many others, but I have had to change my name for this. You will realise why in a minute.

When I first met my DH he was trying to forge a living out of being an artist. He is fantastic but he soon realised how competitive it is and soon realised he just had to make a hobby out of it rather than a career. He now has a more mainstream job which often requires him to work from home so he has the smallest bedroom as his home office.

The DC's wanted to do some drawing today and I went in his home office to get some printer paper for them to use. While I was in there I opened the wrong drawer and found some of his recent "artwork" and was absolutely shocked at what I found. He had done some pencil sketches of women - normal stuff such as women walking in the rain with umbrellas, women having picnics in the park etc. However he had stuck what looks like ladygarden hair on some of the picture, so part of the umbrella was made out of this as was the womans shoes in the picnic picture. Its definitely not his own as - god I am cringing as I write this - his is red so I strongly suspect he has been rummaging in the bin in the bedroom to get my clippings out. I went to check the bin as I had trimmed my ladygarden on Monday and the trimmings were no longer there. Worse still some of the "decorative pieces" were blonde and I have NEVER had a blonde ladygarden so where on earth is he getting those bits from. I am mortified and disgusted with him. What on earth am I going to say to him?

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 12/02/2008 14:24

Just ask him about his pictures. Don't assume the worst.

morningpaper · 12/02/2008 14:24

You need to ask him

Artists do bonkers things in the name of art

I don't understand why you are assuming the worst.

noddyholder · 12/02/2008 14:26

he is an artist what do you expect?I think its fine would be more worried that he didn't feel he could show it to you.

Wisteria · 12/02/2008 14:27

but a bit as well sorry

Can see why you have namechanged. Why couldn't he just ask you for some of your clippings?

I would just confront him with it - probably an innocent explanation..Are you sure that the other hair is actually ladygarden hair and not just normal hair cunningly fashioned to look like hedgeing work?

strangesituation · 12/02/2008 14:28

Because the blonde hair is not mine and not his. He must have got it from someone else. I mean, I couldn't even imagine saying to someone "How are you, its lovely to see you and by the way can I have some of your pubic hair?" Its just bizarre.

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BroccoliSpears · 12/02/2008 14:29

Could it be dog hair? Paintbrush bristles?

Ledodgy · 12/02/2008 14:30

Have your dc's got a doll with blonde hair?If so it can be quite corse and he may have chopped a bit off to get the blond pube look?

It sounds to me like he was drawing these pictures saw your pubic hair in the bin and decided to be all arty and creative. I wouldn't be too worried.

Twiglett · 12/02/2008 14:30

do you know anyone with a 'blonde' dog

sounds like the kind of crap modern artists get up to tbh

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 12/02/2008 14:30

It's far too early in the day for a wind up thread surely?

legalalien · 12/02/2008 14:31

are you sure it's pubic hair (he cldn't just have purchased some hair extensions or something?)

strangesituation · 12/02/2008 14:31

Wisteria - its very wiry and course so can only be pubic hair. Either that or he knows someone with the shortest frizziest hair ever. Where on earth would he have got it from? Do they sell it on e-bay or something? I know people sell their used shoes etc but did not even consider people would sell parts of them. I think I would rather he was buying it though than getting it from someone he knows.

One of his colleagues is a mutual friend - she is lovely but tbh is more his friend than mine and is always very encouraging of his artistic tendencies. She has blonde hair - do you think it could be hers?

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Wisteria · 12/02/2008 14:32

artists are potty though aren't they, I lived with a cartoonist for a while and that was an experience.......why can't people learn to just be upfront about things in the first place?

Had he asked you or told you where his creativity was taking him then you could have had a good giggle about it and it would have been fine - now you're upset and fearing the worst, as I would be I can imagine.

You've go to just come out with it - will you know from his reaction whether there is anything more sinister going on?

legalalien · 12/02/2008 14:32

or maybe he bleached it?

strangesituation · 12/02/2008 14:33

No - I have DS's and the only doll my youngest has is bald and currently resides in the loft as it never gets played with. I don't know anyone who has a dog either.

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moonstruck · 12/02/2008 14:35

LOL!!!!! Very funny
Wisyeria-sinister? pmsl

Ledodgy · 12/02/2008 14:36

Maybe he bleached yours or his own?

monkeytrousers · 12/02/2008 14:36

It's not disgusting, it's art!

Is his name Jake Chapman?

(Could he have bleached the hair blonde maybe? I'd want to know about that!)

LadyMuck · 12/02/2008 14:36

I'm impressed that you can so accurately identify pubes on sight.

You need to ask him - "sorry darling but I can across these, and had the most insane thought that you've using pubes in this picutre. Just to allay my imagination, what are these from exactly?" He'll probably explain that they are from some artbrush or other.

Not all blondes have blonde pubes btw.

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 12/02/2008 14:36

I've heard of university students selling their pubic hair on ebay, you know, to buy books and stuff.

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 12/02/2008 14:36

Just ask him!

choccypig · 12/02/2008 14:37

Case of "stick to the day job" methinks.

beansprout · 12/02/2008 14:38

I would be more concerned that my dh spent his time fashioning art out of pubes, but then again, I am not the arty type.

moonstruck · 12/02/2008 14:38

Pube clippings in the bin? How your ladygarden grows!!!

Wisteria · 12/02/2008 14:43

shades of hannibal lecter - mwah ha ha

strangesituation · 12/02/2008 14:44

I think I am going to have to but he is so precious about his home office and will probably think I have been snooping or something.

I guess it could be bleached but I don't think it is (I have just had a closer look). I had an experience with my own ladygarden when I was a student and tried to dye it for my then BF and it turned a hideous shade of orange. If anyone has seen the SATC episode where Samantha tried to cover up her first grey pubic hair you will know exactly what shade I mean.

Is there anyway I could find out if this friend has a blonde ladygarden without sounding like a complete loon. Maybe I could talk about waxing or something, because the more I think about it the more I susepct it may be her. she is a bit "wacky" and probably wouldn't think twice about making a donation

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