Is he interested

[Tibetandoghund]

For the past eighteen months I've seen a guy in passing when we're out walking our dogs. He always beams a smile and keeps prolonged eye contact as we're approaching. We usually stop and chat. Once or twice we walked along together and the dogs have played. Sometimes what I assume is his wife/gf will be with him. He still beams and looks at me but won't then walk along with me. She seems chilled and will also say a few general words about the dog/weather, etc, when we stop.
He's probably about 15 to 20 years older than me.
I got the feeling when I first saw him when he was alone that he was interested in me. After I saw him with her, I'm not so sure what's going on. He always looks pleased to see me whether she's with him or not.

Does it matter? He's with someone.

Raise your bar

Why does it matter? if you have to ask, then the answer is probably no.

You need to find out if she's his partner or just his friend/sister. Assume she's his partner and just casually ask "no wife today?" (Or something along those lines) - emphasis on the 'casual' - don't sound interested. Then take it from there (obviously if he confirms that she's his partner you can still be dog walking acquaintances but that should be as far as it goes, even if he is interested... but you know that already)

He probably enjoys the attention.

We’ll it seems pretty obvious - he fancies you and flirts with you but understandably doesn’t talk to you when his partner is with him. So he’s basically a sleazy creep.

If course it isn’t his bloody sister!

I think you're leaping to conclusions here. He might just be being polite.

He doesn't act like a sleaze and I wouldn't say he's flirting. He seems happy to see me. He doesn't ignore me if she's with him, he just doesn't stop for so long or suggest walking the same way. I just feel awkward stopping when she's there, I don't know why. It's like I'm feeling guilty about something when there's nothing to feel guilty about.

Well next time he’s with her stop and talk to them and see how he reacts.

I think it might be because the first couple of times I saw him we chatted for a while and I felt we gelled really easily then that hasn't happened since. Maybe he wasn't with her at that time, but now is, which would explain it.

He might be interested. Why are you wasting time working out what a stranger with a partner thinks of you?

He wants to play hide the sausage, lovie. Just.

People with partners are not available.

Just wondering why you’re questioning an innocent, friendly interaction from a bloke who clearly has a girlfriend?!!!!!

I suppose because I liked him. We gelled on first meeting. Talk just flowed. It wasn't like usually meeting others with dogs. Yes he was friendly but it seemed so easy to talk to him. I was surprised when I saw him with a woman. I was expecting to keep meeting him and for something to develop I suppose. I still wonder if she's just a friend of his. I suppose I could ask.

This. My DH is a friendly guy, doesn't mean he wants to shag everyone.

It's really normal for someone to smile at someone who is familiar to them... it's also normal to have a chat when it's just you, but perhaps not bother when he's got someone he actually knows to talk to. I don't think he's interested just a friendly man.

I read your title and was preparing to say, "There's only one way to find out."

But then I saw that he's 15-20 years older than you and with his wife/gf. What is the matter with you?

No. If he were available and interested he'd have made it clear, and you wouldn't need to ask us.

Fucking gross, 15-20 years older?

Despite all the people here obviously demonising him immediately, I would say those assumptions sound ridiculous but he doesn't seem particularly interested. Some people are just sociable and like to speak to people when they are out and about, many are dog walkers.

The woman may be wife/girlfriend or may be someone else. But I would assume he is just friendly. Even if he is single being 15-20 years older I suspect he would assume you wouldn't be interested in him. A social man above a certain age who is attractive and pleasant is likely to be in a relationship.

There seems to be a lot of thought about someone you pass walking the dog and occasionally chat too.

Exactly.

Pick someone your own age, he's probably friendly with everyone he meets.

I disagree with the first part (age is irrelevant) but 100% agree with the second part of the sentence!

@QueefQueen80s yep, that's the problem, not that he has a partner. Wtf?