I've blocked him but I owe him £10, wwyd?

[TheLingeringTenner]

I posted late last year about having a crush on the owner of a business I frequented to do with a hobby (think sport)

Long story short I put my cards on the table and we went out a few times and ended up sleeping together but it didn't go anywhere as it transpired he was hung up on his on/off ex so I blocked him a few weeks ago as my feelings were getting hurt.

He would do this thing where when I go to buy something he'd say "don't worry about it, just give me it next time" despite me insisting he take the money. Upon reflection I think was his way of ensuring I kept coming back as I'd know I owed him something iykwim.

So at the point of blocking there was an outstanding £10 and I don't have his bank details.

Would you

A) Unblock him and ask him to send the details so I can transfer the money and then promptly block him again.

B) Take it into the shop.

C) Send it in the post.

I don't like the idea of not repaying it. I know it's only a few quid but it's the principle and I don't like feeling like I haven't paid what's owed.

I wouldn't do anything, it's only a tenner.

Does your banking app have the facility to pay someone using a link when you send it via text or email? I'd do that. Unblock to send then block again.

I'm not sure I haven't used that feature before but I'll have a look.

@TheLingeringTenner I'd go and give him his tenner and keep him blocked then.

He wasn't telling you he wasn't interested - just that he was only interested in sex.

If he ever asks you for it, then give him it. Otherwise ignore him!

Do as @mamnotmum says. Otherwise it does look like you’re making an excuse to try to contact him.

Just forget it. You already realised the £10 was to keep you coming back...even if you post it you are doing exactly that "coming back" and he'll take it to mean you're still thinking about him

I'm guessing he didn't want you paying for stuff from his shop and said give me it later as a buffer so you'd take the stuff. You do not owe this man a tenner and he'll probably be wondering wtf you're on if you post one through his door.

He will use it as an opportunity and an opening to use you again, keep your dignity and write it off

Mate. Think this through.

What you gonna do, write a little note for the envelope to say who the money's from and why?

What's he going to think? "About time, I've been wondering when x would finally give that back." Or..."Huh, I'd forgotten all about this, why has x given me this back after all this time, it's only a tenner."

Or...option 3, are you hoping he'll think "aw I miss x, that's so nice of her to give me this back, I want to try again with her."

I wasn't going to leave a note just the tenner in an envelope, even if he was baffled as to where it came from my conscience would be clear 😂

You're just opening back up a line of communication with him if you send it to him OP, even if that's not what your objective is. No good can come of it!

To me it represents closure rather than starting things up again. Once paid back you have no reason to think of him again, and if you do then it’s better that you don’t have thoughts of being tied or indebted to him.

So I say post the money and feel free!