Bf told me off for reading his messages

[Sadhaaaaa]

Not sure how I feel about this.

we were watching tv together cuddled up and bf pulled out his phone to respond to his male friend who was messaging. I’ve met friend once or twice and he is currently on hol in a random place, texting bf funny updates. I gasped at one and asked bf about it, he then said “don’t read my messages”.

I couldn’t tell it the tone was jokey or not so asked if he was serious. He relented and said that it was actually fine which presumably means he was serious: he said reason for this was because his friend can sometimes send rude / inappropriate messages.

im fine with all of this but feel a bit awkward given that he literally pulled out his phone in front of me. What was I supposed to do, avert my eyes?

other than this we get in really really well and no issues. Have been seeing each other a lot for several months now - 6 or so months.

Sorry-I think you were in the wrong. Don't read other people's messages!

Could you not just have looked away and kept watching the tele?

I had an ex, who not only read and deleted my messages, but replied to some, started conversations, deleted a lot of my contacts (all the female ones) and caused a lot of friction with some good friends.

She lasted a week and my phone is now fingerprint protected.

DH does this to me and I find it infuriating. Respect my privacy. I respect his. If he wants to share a message then I'll take a look.

@BisonGrassVodka you were with someone for a week and they did all that?

Comments are a bit harsh.

If DH pulls his phone out in front of me where I can see, or if I pull mine out where he can see, we have no issues with the other seeing the messages. Looking at the messages in view of other people doesn't signify that they are meant to be private.

Or alternatively it could mean that they trust each other implicitly with their devices and the content.