Self defence argument

[Theanthropologist]

My DH insists on taking a small, wooden stick / weapon type object when he goes out.
He usually keeps it in his rucksack or pocket.
I don't have one and can't imagine many others do either. It makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious.
So we completely disagree on this and argue about it often.
He is into self defence and says "you never know".
I can't be doing with such an approach to life. And I'm also concerned it could end up getting him in trouble.
But he just explains it all away and says he is right.
Do I just have to accept this behaviour?

I think it's ridiculous personally but each to their own. Having said that, DH's family live in almost constant fear of attach etc and I find it very difficult. DH has toned it all down a lot which is good as quite honestly, I'm not sure that our relationship would have survived if he hadn't. So I'd see this as a sign of a bigger problem about how he views the world and his attitude and how different that is to yours.

Do you ever feel physically scared of him? for yourself or for your DC?

Our USA relatives think our laws regarding weapons and self defence are ludicrous! But then we think their kids having bullet proof backpacks for school and sleepovers is equally ludicrous.

I've got a knuckle duster keyring and I won't apologise for it. If some creepy fucker grabs me I want to break as much of his face as I can on my way out.

This is the stupidest argument I've ever heard. If a woman walking alone at night feels afraid she may be raped, is it because she's a rapist and projecting? What absolute bollocks. You can be concerned about being voilently attacked without being avoilent attacker.

"This is the stupidest argument I've ever heard"

I was more referring to men who see society as out to get them, not the very real threat of male on female violence. Sorry for not making that clear.

I think I saw your DH down the woods earlier with that bit of wood in his pocket.

Thanks to all the helpful contributors.
Because of some unhelpful comments, think I've heard all I want to hear now.
By the way, this is what a controlling man can do to a woman's mind - mess with her head so much, make her doubt and question everything and seek reassurance from others in places such as Mumsnet.
Sad, but true.

This is what a controlling man can do to a woman's mind - mess with her head so much, make her doubt and question everything and seek reassurance from others in places such as Mumsnet.
Sad, but true.

Are you afraid of him?

I think I probably would be, tbh.

If you're considering leaving him, I would speak to local domestic abuse services and consider a refuge.

You could potentially report him for carrying an offensive weapon.