Is it me?

[Moonchild009]

My bf and I had an argument because he said that my energy towards him doing things, such as eating without me is odd. Today he told me he had joe and the juice for lunch (somewhere I introduced him to) and my response was “I’m jel”. I then went on to ask him questions about what he ate. We started chatting about the food, restaurant and lots of other things. Then he turned around and said he thinks that I am negative because I said I am “jealous”. I literally said it (and have said it many times in the past) as lighthearted banter to places he knows I/we like but he takes it so personally. He thinks jealousy is a terrible trait and doesn’t like me expressing myself in that way. I don’t think it’s that serious. Am I wrong or is he overreacting?

You need to be with someone who doesn't make you feel policed, especially if you're quite a sensitive sort yourself. It's all part of looking after yourself; choose your people wisely. Don't choose people who make you feel uncomfortable being who you are.

I don’t buy that he IS sensitive. He knows you are though and he is manipulating that to his advantage. Please tell me you aren’t planning to stay with him, he is no good for you at all.

I think there's a difference between being sensitive to what people say/feel about you, and sensitive about other people's feelings. I'd imagine both are the first, and neither are the second. Neither is being sensitive to the other's feelings at all. It's a tussle of right and wrong, rather than an attempt to relate to or understand one another.