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massages for men

31 replies

MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 11:04

This is going to seem more controversial than I mean it to be. Really I was just wondering about the topic.

I really love having a massage and every now and then will pay for one. They have always been female masseuses and I think I prefer it that way although I don't have a strong view on it.

It occurred to me that I am not sure how comfortable I would be if DH went for a massage though. I know men who go for sports massages but none who go just purely for the physical pleasure. Is it normal for men to go for massages that aren't related to health or sport?

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Pseudonamed · 01/03/2023 11:56

Mine does but only with me. Not same time in the same room but booked in at same time for different masseuse. He would not do it alone though.

CouldIHaveThatInEnglishPlease · 01/03/2023 11:59

My husband goes to the spa around 3 or 4 times a year and has a massage.
sometimes we go together, sometimes not. He always books his birthday off work and spends that at the spa on his own (I’m a teacher so can’t book days off to join him). I’ve never thought twice about it and I don’t think he does either

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MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 12:02

Are you bothered if your husbands have a masseuse or male masseur?

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baileys6904 · 01/03/2023 12:13

Couldn't care less. Same as I don't care whether its a female or male doctor that examines him. Pretty sure most women can do their jobs without shagging their client

theministerscat · 01/03/2023 12:53

Hello - it's not quite clear to me what you're not comfortable with. Is it the idea of your husband being massaged by a professional masseur who happens to be female? What about that would concern you? I can assure you that the masseur would only be interested in providing a professional service - are you worried that your husband would find it a sexually arousing situation? To answer your question, its perfectly normal and reasonable for men to get a massage simply because massages are nice.

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MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 12:57

theministerscat I am not sure the idea that she is paid to provide the service makes me much happier. I just don't want him to have a great time being touched by another woman while he is mostly naked!

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bigbadbarry · 01/03/2023 12:59

My husband loves a massage. We go to the same person (at different times) and share a loyalty card. It has genuinely never occurred to me to worry

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 01/03/2023 13:00

MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 12:57

theministerscat I am not sure the idea that she is paid to provide the service makes me much happier. I just don't want him to have a great time being touched by another woman while he is mostly naked!

That's a you problem I'm afraid.

DH goes for massages a couple times a year. I've never once asked the sex of the masseurs nor do I care.

If he was going to cheat he will. Fortunately I trust him not to.

theministerscat · 01/03/2023 13:03

Would you prefer he had a great time being touched by another man while he is mostly naked?

bunnypenny · 01/03/2023 13:03

MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 12:57

theministerscat I am not sure the idea that she is paid to provide the service makes me much happier. I just don't want him to have a great time being touched by another woman while he is mostly naked!

so you're completely happy with him having a great time being touched by another man while he is mostly naked?

LordEmsworth · 01/03/2023 13:05

So it's ok for you to pay a woman to give you a great time while you're nearly naked, but not him?

Yes, men go for massages. Some are more comfortable with a male masseur so will actively seek one out, others aren't bothered, and still others (a minority but some) actively seek a female masseur and get sexual pleasure from it.

As your DH has apparently not expressed any interest in getting a massage from anyone, I think it's ok for you not to worry about it...

Bookworm20 · 01/03/2023 13:19

bunnypenny · 01/03/2023 13:03

so you're completely happy with him having a great time being touched by another man while he is mostly naked?

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Thats totally different though. You know what Op means! If her husband is hetrosexual, he won't be the least bit turned on by being massaged by a bloke. Won't even enter his head. But there is the possibility that he may be aroused by being massaged by a woman. Especially if that woman is young and beautiful.

I get what she means. She isn't sure she would feel great about the fact her hubbie is being rubbed while half naked by another woman.
Obviously nothing is going to happen.
But if he is anything like most hetrosexual men, being rubbed half naked by a beautful woman, it may well enter his head.

But OP, you just need to think logically about this. So what if he does really enjoy it. He will just associate feeling good with the massage, not with the woman doing the massge, if that makes sense. I understand what you mean though.

QueefQueen80s · 01/03/2023 13:31

@Bookworm20 Ew "young and beautiful" yeah if her husband is a perv.

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MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 13:38

Ew "young and beautiful" yeah if her husband is a perv. Or male? (runs and hides...)

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Bookworm20 · 01/03/2023 13:50

Yeah I know. But i'm going to generalise here and say men liking being massaged by a young beautiful woman isn't a perv. I'm not sure there are many men on this planet who would not enjoy being massaged by a beautiful woman. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Op was just saying she had just thought how she would feel if her husband was being rubbed half naked by another woman. And it would feel a bit weird. Nothing wrong with that either.

And I know we shouldn't be ageist or ugliest or sexist or whatever the ist we might inadvertantly be and offend someone is. But its hardly uncommon knowledge that most men like beautiful women.

QueefQueen80s · 01/03/2023 13:52

Well I can see why OP minds if that is the truth.

philautia · 01/03/2023 13:57

I feel like we're getting into Black Mirror territory here. Some posters are worried about their husbands THOUGHTS during a massage?

Maybe they are thinking something inappropriate...maybe they're just enjoying the massage. Do you police the sex of hairdressers before he goes?

You can't stop someone going for a massage, that is beyond bonkers.

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MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 14:00

philautia They are also having their (almost) naked body rubbed all over by a woman

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GoodChat · 01/03/2023 14:09

DP loves massages. I hate them. He tends to have them as a treat when we go abroad as we always manage to pick hotels with spas (unintentionally). I don't care whether it's a man or woman massaging him. It's their job.

GoodChat · 01/03/2023 14:10

MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 14:00

philautia They are also having their (almost) naked body rubbed all over by a woman

Is this a trust issue? Or you think he'll get aroused or something? Has he done anything to make you nervous?

CouldIHaveThatInEnglishPlease · 01/03/2023 16:00

MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 12:02

Are you bothered if your husbands have a masseuse or male masseur?

No. They are there to do a job.
I was also not worried when he went to the female gp concerned about his prostrate. And that was a pants down job

philautia · 01/03/2023 16:06

MrsPotterings · 01/03/2023 14:00

philautia They are also having their (almost) naked body rubbed all over by a woman

"They are also having their (almost) naked body rubbed all over by a woman"

Changing this for you so as not to offend professionals just doing a job. I'm sure they aren't excited to touch your husbands naked flesh.

"They are also having their (almost) naked body rubbed all over by a professional masseuse"

Samedaysameshit · 01/03/2023 19:00

I’ve Never been and don’t think I e ever heard of any of my friends going?
went for a sports massage once and that was like being assaulted!

xprincessxjanetx · 01/03/2023 19:35

I wouldn't be bothered but my DH would never have any interest in a massage of any kind, I am the same - I couldn't think of anything less relaxing! But that's probably my low self confidence talking!

Zanatdy · 01/03/2023 19:36

A professional massage no it wouldn’t cross my mind to be jealous

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