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How early did you know he was 'the one'

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Rupiduti · 27/02/2023 07:22

Obviously I know things can happen hence the one being in inverted commas. But I often see on these threads people saying thar 4 months is nothing etc... and whilst I agree that's a short time in the grand scheme and perhaps introducing kids that soon isn't ideal. But if no kids involved etc... and you spend a lot of time with one another, how soon did you (think) you knew he was the one?

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OrlandointheWilderness · 27/02/2023 07:30

I don't believe in the whole one person in the world thing. But I knew as soon as I saw my DP he was mine and would be for a long, long time. He felt like coming home.

crossstitchingnana · 27/02/2023 07:37

3 weeks. We moved in after 3 months. We were very young. Still together decades later. However, we both acknowledge it was all a bit too quick with the power of hindsight.

SunflowerTed · 27/02/2023 07:45

First date! Been together 15 years!

thymee · 27/02/2023 07:48

I don't believe in 'the one'. But I knew a few months in that it would be a long term relationship.

dudsville · 27/02/2023 07:50

We both knew straight away, but i wasn't ready so i delayed things.

thymee · 27/02/2023 07:50

(Having said that, I still wouldn't have introduced kids at that point, no matter how sure I thought I was - 6 month minimum).

Glitteratitar · 27/02/2023 07:51

I knew on our second date that we were meant to be in a relationship. I didn’t expect that to turn into marriage and DC and don’t think I ever had a moment where I thought he is “the one”.

loadypoady · 27/02/2023 07:51

We were good mates prior to going out together. I knew before we got together he was the one.
Married for 36 years now and together for 42 years.

Obstackle · 27/02/2023 07:53

I didn't. I thought he would do till someone better came along.

Turns out there is no one better 😁

Together 29 years.

0o0o0o0 · 27/02/2023 07:54

It took a good year.

BarrelOfOtters · 27/02/2023 08:20

Not the one…we are both fairly realistic that there are ‘many ones’. But we met each other at the right time for us to think this is likely to work. But it took about 3 years for me to move out of my place into his. Giving up my independence was huge….

Gjallerhorn · 27/02/2023 08:20

DH was a work colleague and then a housemate for a year before we got together. I actually found it very scary the thought I had found a man I loved so much. I had zero intention of marrying and having children. We have been together close to 27 years but known each other for almost 30.

In my entire life I have met 4 men who I think were good enough to even consider dating that’s it so not many at all so the fact I actually found one is nothing short of a miracle. I knew he was the one before we dated.

ShandaLear · 27/02/2023 08:31

Straight away, though he had been conversing via email for a few months. When we first met it took every ounce of strength not to hold his hand - the urge was so strong. It was like coming home, and all the tumblers just fell into place. I don’t believe in woo and I don’t believe in ‘The One’, and on a first meeting 100 things could have gone wrong, and on every other date too, but they didn’t and they haven’t. It just works, it’s easy, it’s nurturing, and it’s a really fulfilling, positive relationship. I’m very happy in it 8 years on (I can’t believe it’s 8 years - it only feels like one or two).

HaveYouSeenNancy · 27/02/2023 08:46

As soon as I was introduced to him by a mutual friend, 25 years ago. I was 20, he was 30 and I couldn't believe he was single. We were married within a year.

AnuSTart · 27/02/2023 08:56

In a video job interview. I thought he was just beautiful and I fell in love there and then. I knew I had to have that man in my life. He's now my husband.

Pseudonamed · 27/02/2023 11:04

First date I just knew he was the one for me. By the second I was assured I was the one for him too :)

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 27/02/2023 11:07

Well, I was hopeful from the first date! But these things have to be reciprocated….

Forty one years now…..

Fifipop185 · 27/02/2023 11:08

Sounds so cheesy, but I knew he was the one the second I clapped eyes on him. He was so carefree and funny and caring, and those abs... Been together 28 years, married for 21.

lobeliasb · 27/02/2023 11:17

Pretty much straight away, within two days of meeting. We met backpacking and were inseparable right away. With my ex boyfriends, it definitely didn't have that same comfortable feeling. With my DH, it was easy from the start and there was no question of his interest level.

3kidswouldfinishanyoneoff · 27/02/2023 11:27

I'm seeing someone I used to work with since November 21. He recently told me he loved me and I absolutely love him.

I didn't say it back to him when he said it to me but we are seeing one another tomorrow and I plan on telling him then as something big happening in my life on Thursday.

I hope he's the one, it feels like it, we get on great and it's so easy.

He's so respectful and he's beautiful in every way. I adore him.

Wish me luck!

Namechangedforthisonetoday · 27/02/2023 11:28

The first night I met him. I knew that was it. I was going to marry him and have children with this man.

Adrelaxzz · 27/02/2023 11:31

6 months .
But my parents were 2 days (still happily married 55 years later)
And grandparents married in 6 weeks (both with previous kids) married for 60 years!

Zanatdy · 27/02/2023 12:11

Been with my bf for 3months and he told me he was falling in love with me after 6wks. We are limited in how often we can see each other but I do think we could go the distance.

LightBlueJeans · 27/02/2023 12:28

The first time I met DH I thought he was wonderful and I remember going to sleep that night thinking "maybe I'll marry him one day". We started dating a few months later and then married after 6 years together. He's still wonderful!

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Rupiduti · 27/02/2023 13:08

Thanks all, this is really good to know and has also been so lovely to hear! The poster's who described the feeling as 'coming home' have hit the nail on the head. I've never felt this happy in my life and just want to be with him all the time. I really hope it's successful like all of your stories.

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