My boyfriend has a girlfriend

[LauraLion]

I was with with my ex for nearly 5 years. We'd been arguing a bit, I was prepared to work through it, he wasn't, so we separated at the beginning of last year. Took me a long time to get over it.

A couple of months back he reached out and we met up. Fast forward to now and we've been seeing each other again, taking it slow but felt like we were sorting things out.

I found out today that he has a girlfriend that he's been with for around 4-5 months. I feel sick! I haven't told any of my friends or family as they weren't particularly impressed with the way he ended things or the fact we had started seeing each other. He doesn't know I know and has just text asking to meet up tomorrow. Shall I call him and tell him what an absolute arse he is? Block him without explanation? Tell the girlfriend?

You should never have got back after the time apart.

I would probably tell her,politely and respectfully,provide evidence,screenshots etc wish her the best and move on.Theres nothing worse than hearing people have sent FB messages without proof of what they're saying.What she does next is up to her.

She's quite a bit younger than him, I do feel sorry for her. Never would have expected this after being with him for 5 years!

Definitely tell and be very mindful she will be getting a shock. How young is she?

My ex was seeing someone a fair but younger than us when we separated. I then found out he was still seeing her right up to the day we got back together! He was using her and lying to me...a prince among men!

I agree with many pp's that you should tell her. After all, someone told you and you're taking action on the back of it. If you don't tell her, she won't get the chance to make that choice.

She deserves to know the same as you did.

@AaaaaandBreathe Well she's not a teenager but she's fairly young (compared to me anyway, I'm 15 years older than her!).