NC for this. Quite a long one, sorry!
Following seeing a post yesterday, it got me thinking of DP’s expensive hobby.
For a bit of background, DP supports a sports team which is not local to us. He travels to watch them play around once per month, sometimes more (this month it’s 3 times). Between the ticket cost, fuel and food he usually spends around £150. However this month he has stayed in a hotel twice the night before the game.
We do not share finances however we do have joint finances for household bills etc. He uses his disposable income to pay for his hobby and isn’t left with much to save at the end of the month. I save around £400-£500 a month, I have always been a saver.
We’ve recently got a dog so this means when he is away I am looking after the puppy all day (who is too young to be left for long period of time) and this restricts what I can do with my time.
It got me thinking about the future and when we have kids. I said to him that chances are he won’t be able to afford to do this as often when we have kids, plus I’m not so keen on being left with a dog and baby all day while he’s away enjoying his hobby. Also, it’s quite restrictive as if he is not at the game, he will NEVER miss a game on the tv.
DP justifies spending this amount of money as he gave up drinking a number of years ago. There is also the very odd occasion where he will miss watching the football for an occasion.
I’m looking for advice on how to deal with this going forward? I knew that he was sports mad when I met him so I guess I knew what I was signing up to, however if we have kids I certainly don’t want things to carry on as they are so I would rather put boundaries in place now