A strange one. I was elated to get together with him, and he is nice, and faithful (as far as I know) and I knew him for years as a friend but just somehow he makes me feel sad inside.
He doesn’t want to hug me as much as I want to hug him. He is more critical of me than I am of him. He tries to see me less than I do him.
And yet I know I am really important to him and all the signs of commitment are there. He’s introduced me to family and friends, he is very kind to me, he listens and remembers what’s important to me.
We’ve been together about a year, both second time around with kids, and I feel we’re missing out moment. I did fall in love with him, and I know he did with me because I felt it, but he didn’t say and neither did I and now I feel it has missed its chance. I don’t know if he loves me and he tends to want things to feel more trivial rather than less. I feel he is deeply worried about commitment and wants to see off any ‘intense’ moments in case they’re too challenging/upsetting/vulnerable. But as a result he has removed the very thing I’m in relationships for.
Should I end it? I feel so sad to, as I really fell for him and he would be ideal. But I feel he might be ultimately emotionally unavailable. Is there any way to work with men like this? He makes me feel unwanted.
thanks