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Caught my bf asking escorts for bj

32 replies

Rhirh · 16/02/2023 14:44

So I caught my bf asking an escort the price of bj and for her to send more pictures as the pictures on the website of her body were not clear enough. After I caught him he then said he seen some friends outside and they told him this escort was “polish” and that he wanted to see for himself if he knew her, then he said he was just doing it for a laugh because he was bored, he has also just cheated on me in September.

he’s saying I should believe him because he loves me and because he has been trying for the past 4 months to get me back. He’s also saying he’s broke so why would he spend his last money on an escort

OP posts:
ZekeZeke · 16/02/2023 14:48

What are you asking?

Your cheating boyfriend is cheating again

Darkoutsideclosethecurtains · 16/02/2023 14:48

You describe this guy as your bf but then say he's been trying for months to get you back, so he's really your ex-bf isn't he. He doesn't love you or respect you regardless of what he says. Time to move on and not have him in your life

JammyDodgerrr · 16/02/2023 14:49

Wow! No don't believe him, he's already cheated and now he's asking escorts for a BJ and photos claiming it's for a laugh 😩 sounds so messed up!
Get rid.

Couchpotato3 · 16/02/2023 14:49

Kick him to the kerb. You deserve soooo much better than this.

DelphiniumBlue · 16/02/2023 14:52

Yuk.
You don't need a sleaze like him in your life.

DelphiniumBlue · 16/02/2023 14:54

And just to clarify, an escort is a sexworker, who has quite likely been trafficked and/or is vulnerable - because why else would she be giving bjs for money? Your "BF" doesn't care about this and nether does he have any respect for you.

Bionesque · 16/02/2023 14:58

Oh, sweetheart, what are you doing?

workshy46 · 16/02/2023 14:58

Oh dear god you have to ask ?? Seriously raise your bar and don't even think of dating anyone until you have worked on your self worth and esteem as you are likely to be treated like dirt by everyone who comes after him if not.
He doesn't love you, he doesn't even like you and obviously thinks you are completely stupid if he thinks you will believe that crook of shit

You are worth a million times more than this piece of shit.

WhoNeedsSleepNotISaidMyBody · 16/02/2023 15:01

Apart from the sex stuff, why would you choose to be with someone who thinks you're that fucking stupid you'd believe that monumental load of crap?

Original poster
Rhirh · 16/02/2023 15:01

I am definitely getting rid, he’s making me seem like I’m going crazy with saying he would never meet a woman and pay her services and that it was all just a joke because he was bored.

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Original poster
Rhirh · 16/02/2023 15:02

I know I’m a mess, I’ve been cheated on in every relationship. It’s nothing new

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PurpleReindeer2 · 16/02/2023 15:07

OP he's a low life cheat. You deserve better. Dump him. Don't accept being treated like this.

chipndip · 16/02/2023 15:09

If your boyfriend has the escort's number, it's from her website where her service list and prices list will be listed. No-one contacts an escort for a joke or out of boredom.

Escorts do not commonly send randoms (like your boyfriends) extra pictures at their behest, so he's pushing the escorts boundaries by asking for more pictures.

Your boyfriend is at best a time waster (this is how the escort in question will view him given his questions/demands), and at worst, an entitled boundary pusher. He's showing you exactly who he is, so dump him, he's not going to change.

Opentooffers · 16/02/2023 15:15

So what is it about this cheating, escort- using broke pathetic excuse of a man that keeps you interested? There's a simple answer - bin him off and accept better.
Some men cheat, some don't, if all yours do, it's time to asess the way you chose and if it's just based just on if they give you attention at the start, you need more rules than that.

TheLastDreamOfTheOak · 16/02/2023 15:17

When you look at your own post, does it help you answer you own question? So sorry-I know it's hard to see the wood for the trees when you are in a situation like this-but he's not for you-you can do better and you deserve much more.

Back2Back2t · 16/02/2023 15:19

This has to be a wind up. No way this is real.

Original poster
Rhirh · 16/02/2023 15:23

I will 100% be leaving this man. I think the loneliness has lowered my standards but I am learning and I know I deserve better

OP posts:
Dery · 16/02/2023 15:48

OP - if you’ve been cheated on in every relationship, then you’re choosing the wrong type of man. It suggests you’re missing red flags in each relationship. That’s good news in the sense that you can fix that. You might find Women Who Love Too Much a helpful read.

Penguinsmum · 16/02/2023 16:00

Definitely raise your standards fast. He sounds absolutely disgusting.

WaltzingWaters · 16/02/2023 16:02

Ewww get rid of him. He’s disgusting and will end up giving you an STI

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 16/02/2023 16:06

Does he think you were born yesterday? LTB.

RedToothBrush · 16/02/2023 16:13

Rhirh · 16/02/2023 15:23

I will 100% be leaving this man. I think the loneliness has lowered my standards but I am learning and I know I deserve better

You aren't convincing me.

First your op says 'my boyfriend'. Not 'my now exboyfriend'.

Then this post say 'i will be leaving this man' future tense. Not 'i have left this man' past tense or 'i have made plan to leave this man' present tense.

Your use of language and the fact you have started this thread says you haven't accepted the relationship is a dead duck and you haven't just immediately ended it firmly, like you should.

You are so going to give him a chance to explain himself, buy the bullshit and go round in the cycle again.

AnyFucker · 16/02/2023 16:32

He thinks you were born yesterday

GlassBunion · 16/02/2023 16:37

He really doesn't love or respect you else why would do it?
Get rid.

MrsMoastyToasty · 16/02/2023 16:40

Get an STI test done pronto. He's probably already been with prostitutes.