DH hasnt come home

[Seriouslywhy1]

I don't know what to do this is very unlike him. DH went out at 1 to see a friend and have lunch, drinks but he is normally back by 6/7. I've just got up to settle ds and noticed he's not back. No bars near me are open until this time on a Monday. I don't have the phone number of the friend he went out with but when I ring DH he's not picking up. I'm really worried he has a moderate learning disability and struggles with directions and understanding things and I normally help him day to day. I'm worried he's passed out somewhere or worse. What can I do if he's not back by the morning? As he's an adult I am not sure the protocol but I think the police will take into consideration his disability. I'm really worried

Fuck me what on earth is wrong with you?

What an insulting and derogatory comment....!!! 😡 😡 😡 😡 😡

This is ableist bullshit. Reported.

Sounds like you sorted it out all fine, just ignore any rude messages, you sound like you have everything in hand and are working great as parents. He stuffed up, he apologised, you are going to maturely discuss it. My husband had issues with directions/getting lost due to a deteriorating health condition and I can assure you no services were remotely interested in a well-cared for child.

What is your point?

She already said he has a learning disability which is why she worries about him because he isn’t good with directions.

It doesn’t matter what his personality is like.

@Highdaysandholidays1 thankyou for this. I read what the person wrote earlier and it upset me DH tries so hard and we had comments like that when I found out I was pregnant and it was horrible especially as DH was believing them and his mental health wasnt the best. But reading this made me feel a bit better.

There are some great suggestions incase it happens again. I'm gonna make a card to put in his wallet today.

Because a parent has a learning disability which impacts their decision making to such an extent they may get lost in an area they are familiar with and because there is a baby in the house.

On what planet do the police do this?!

I am sure I have seen a VERY SIMILAR thread to this - anyone else ? the follow up from the OP is almost identical too

Yes I remember a similar thread about a partner who went to work christmas meal, and when they got back to their car he car park was locked, so they walked around all night.

Social services would only be interested if there was evidence of harm to the children - of which there is none in this case.

There are millions of people with LD, many of them will go on to have children and can be perfectly successful parents with the right support (in this instance it sounds like OP is the right support!), it would be unlawful for social services to get involved on the basis of his LD alone.

Op I just wanted to say that you sound a lovely mum and partner.. very balanced and understanding through what must have been a stressful time for you

Just a thought - besides a card in his wallet with contact details etc you could consider an SOS talisman pendant or bracelet; They unscrew to reveal a folded strip of paper with contact and medical details for anyone who attends the wearer (paramedics, doctors etc) in an emergency.

Just to say my dp has brain damage (I know it's different but he gets lost and confused). We have iPhones and use the Find My Friends app. I imagine Android has similar. It's saved him quite a few times from being completely lost. And even once I checked it and he was in hospital!

We both find it really reassuring.
I'm glad he got home ok.