Would you care about your DH following another woman on Instagram

[Cathyhon]

The title makes me sound crazy but just bare with me! I didn’t know how else to word it🤔

My husband follows less than 15 people on Instagram, nearly all of those people are close family members and a few football players. I was looking through his followings this evening and I noticed that he was following another woman, her pictures are quite??? How shall I put this without sounding like a prude, explicit? Not sure if that’s the right word I should be using but I hope you get the point, a lot of bra photos basically. Just out of curiosity I asked him how he knows her as she does follow him back may I add, he told me that he knew her from work which I found quite odd as he works in quite a male dominant job and doesn’t follow anybody else from work male or female. He didn’t say much else as he was heading of to bed anyway

I left it at that as I didn’t want to look like a crazy person. Would you be ok with this? And am I overthinking

Massively overthinking

Thank you! I needed an opinion from someone other than my friend

Stop stalking fgs

I mean it is a little weird that he only follows that one person from work

If your friend said anything else, she isn’t a friend

It would bother me if he was liking her photos a lot, mentioning her, hiding his phone when I came in the room. All three of these things would need to occur to bother me

I would guess that is his wanking material he gets off to.... sorry to say.

Obviously it is.

He is attracted to her looks. But is she really from work??

As long as he doesn't mind you following someone from work who posts in his pants alot.

I wouldn’t like this. Fair enough if he follows a lot of people from work and they follow him back or whatever but given the details of what you’ve described it does sound off.

He fancies her and wanks to her images.
If she was unattractive he wouldn't have bothered even looking her up.
Her content is just sexy photos. what else is there?
The fact she is known in real life to me is worse than a random online prostitute on a different content. Still disgusting but with this one it's more dangerous because he can actually physically do something with her. She's accessible. Some men once they've had so much porn they want a newer thrill and wanking over women they know in real life gives them an additional kick. It's more personal than a random online whore.

I do believe she is from work, I wouldn’t know why else she would follow him back as her follower to following ratio is quite big

No wouldn't bother me. Why are you stalking your husbands profiles?

Bit odd to be posing in her undies. Although I’m not sure I’d call undies explicit, but couldn’t give a shit who my husband follows on insta

Mm actually I probably wouldn’t really like this much. I’m normally pretty laidback but it’s not so much that he’s following ‘a woman’ on Instagram but that it’s so outside the way he usually uses Instagram that would phase me. He definitely likes the look of her.. how far he’d take that is really anyones guess but ultimately, no I don’t think you’re being paranoid

@Cathyhon Sometimes they follow for a few days and then unfollow as a way to amass followers on instagram, Follow for Follow then stealthfully unfollow.
Because they know each other in real life I would watch for affair signs. Don't make a fuss of it yet otherwise he will scrub up his clean and wipe any evidence.
When you suspect a person, don't let them know you suspect them. Watch and stay as normal as you can.

scrub up his mobile and history clean I meant.. it could be a wanking fantasy thing or could be a start or already started affair. Bit stupid to follow publicly though if it's an affair, cheaters usually block each other from social media but some are stupid I guess...or hiding in plain sight.

I'm am Instagram virgin and on FB I share a lot of memes, and fir this reason i was introduced to Instagram. I literally follow two people on it, my female neighbour and my wife... no idea what I'm doing at all! It is just those two because I really have no clue and I don't really care to know.

...but to an outsider, a man with only a female neighbour and his wife on Instagram, I get it, it looks suspicious.

Sorry for the typos... basically I'm saying that I have no interest in it and I only added those two because they're the only ones that asked. I was basically badgered into getting it and have no clue what's going on. This could very well be the same thing...

@C1N1C yeah but is your neighbour hot and posts scantily clad images???

I totally disagree with some of the replies. You’re not overthinking, it’s inappropriate.

Yes, I agree.

Two posters have accused OP of stalking her DH too. She's hardly paid a private detective to follow him 24/7.

Lol, the wife thinks she is but I don't.

What would be the difference between a girl in a bra enjoying her figure on a mirror, or a muscular guy in the gym with his shirt off?

Would the response be the same if a guy came here and said he was uncomfortable that his partner added a guy who was mostly shirtless posing throughout his Insta as her friend?...