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Zamummy · 2023-02-07T23:00:08+00:00

Hello everyone, my husband cheated on me with multiple women when I was pregnant. He said " I cheated because you were not interested in sex". What do you guys think?

GoldDuster · 08/02/2023 09:43

@BigSwingingJeremyClarkson

Many people live far happier lives keeping their family intact and have occasionally cheated

Sure, why not shag some other people behind your spouses back, and tell the lies required to get away with it, if it makes you happy. As long as you still get your socks washed and your dinner made and your two week family holiday in France every year, and your seat at the head of the table on Christmas day, what could possibly be wrong with sticking your dick in your secretary, or Pam from the golf club to keep the old show on the road eh?

BreviloquentBastard · 08/02/2023 09:46

Sweetheart please listen to your mum. I can assure you that absolutely no one is jealous of your marriage to this piece of dog shit.

MrsSkylerWhite · 08/02/2023 09:47

I think he’s a bastard. You need to separate.

billyt · 08/02/2023 10:12

@BigSwingingJeremyClarkson

You really are an idiot, aren't you? I have no problem if someone wants to leave a marriage/relationship for whatever reason.

Just don't cheat. Why shit on someone or is it just because you can?

Are you dishonest in the rest of your life?

No morals.

Andypandy799 · 08/02/2023 11:53

@Zamummy there is no excuse to park your dick in another woman just because your partners pregnant and doesn’t fancy sex, what a sick bastard. I think you need to build your self esteem and listen to your mother.

notanoxfordcomma · 08/02/2023 12:02

Zamummy · 07/02/2023 23:50

Thank you all for your kind words and advice. I will try to give as much information as possible. He also said " you are the chosen one and so many girls envy you( talking about his admirers). They wish they had your place" does he not sound narcissistic?

Nacassistic, probably.

A total cunt, definitely.

Get rid, OP. X

Mari9999 · 08/02/2023 12:16

OP, what he did to you was to cheat and make you unhappy. What you are doing to yourself is staying with a serial cheater and making yourself miserable.

How is what he did to you significantly worse than what you are doing to yourself? Obviously, you don't object to having sex with him and getting pregnant by him all the while knowing that he is cheating

It seems that neither he nor you have much respect and regard for you. When someone is clobbering you, you don't willingly position yourself so that they can provide maximum blows.

mamnotmum · 08/02/2023 12:25

Nothing is a good reason to cheat. Nothing at all.

Scoobydoobywho · 08/02/2023 12:48

Unless your pregnant belly dragged his dick and put it where it shouldn't go, this isn't on you

Watchkeys · 08/02/2023 13:00

If you feel lost, he hasn't explained in a way that's enough for you. That's how you can tell if your partner is doing things right in a relationship: you feel good, and secure.

CambsAlways · 08/02/2023 14:26

You are the chosen one and so many girls envy you! I’ve heard it all now! How old is this supposedly Adonis of yours! Get rid op you are worth so much more!

Tellingteller · 08/02/2023 14:50

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Thewookiemustgo · 08/02/2023 17:04

OP nothing justifies cheating, absolutely nothing.
It’s a selfish, cowardly and entitled choice made by the cheat to avoid the reality of dealing honestly with whatever it is they need to deal with, or just to avoid reality itself and live out some ego/ sex driven fantasy.
Whatever you allegedly did/ did not do matters in maintaining and improving the marriage, and he also has equal responsibility for that, but regardless of all of it, the victims of cheating are not to blame, nobody is responsible for the behaviour of others, they choose it themselves.
Accept no blame for his choice to cheat: it’s on him.

Mom2K · 08/02/2023 17:05

I hate entitled men. Calling you 'the chosen one' and that other women envy you.

No, in a relationship you choose each other and that includes being faithful to each other. No one envies someone that is married to a vain, lying, entitled, cheating scum such as he.

My ex husband was extremely good looking too (at first) - but the more his true personality was revealed the uglier to me he became. Looks don't mean anything if that's all they've got going for them.

Cut this one loose. You'll probably end up catching an STI and/or he'll get someone else pregnant. With this moron you are never going to have a secure family life and he doesn't even care.

There is no excuse EVER for cheating. And I say this even when it appears that people have presented valid reasons (his excuse is not one of them). If anyone isn't happy in the relationship they can properly leave before they meet someone else. Cheating is disgusting.

Pregnancy especially since it's your body, hormones etc that is doing on the work to bring his child into the world, is ALL THE MORE REASON for him to be more kind, considerate, supportive and self sacrificing to care for you and your feelings.

He is vile.

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Zamummy · 08/02/2023 20:54

CambsAlways · 08/02/2023 14:26

You are the chosen one and so many girls envy you! I’ve heard it all now! How old is this supposedly Adonis of yours! Get rid op you are worth so much more!

He is 36 🤒

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Zamummy · 08/02/2023 20:58

Mom2K · 08/02/2023 17:05

I hate entitled men. Calling you 'the chosen one' and that other women envy you.

No, in a relationship you choose each other and that includes being faithful to each other. No one envies someone that is married to a vain, lying, entitled, cheating scum such as he.

My ex husband was extremely good looking too (at first) - but the more his true personality was revealed the uglier to me he became. Looks don't mean anything if that's all they've got going for them.

Cut this one loose. You'll probably end up catching an STI and/or he'll get someone else pregnant. With this moron you are never going to have a secure family life and he doesn't even care.

There is no excuse EVER for cheating. And I say this even when it appears that people have presented valid reasons (his excuse is not one of them). If anyone isn't happy in the relationship they can properly leave before they meet someone else. Cheating is disgusting.

Pregnancy especially since it's your body, hormones etc that is doing on the work to bring his child into the world, is ALL THE MORE REASON for him to be more kind, considerate, supportive and self sacrificing to care for you and your feelings.

He is vile.

I am just scared to end up being a single mom of 2.

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BankOfDave · 08/02/2023 21:01

There is NO reason for cheating, end of. And when your wife is pregnant, how DARE he 😡

He’s a waste of space and you need to go. I’m pleased your mum has said the same so you have some family support.

Hold your head high OP, it’s not you who needs to be embarrassed. Shameful excuse for a man.

BankOfDave · 08/02/2023 21:03

I am just scared to end up being a single mom of 2

Do you not think you already are, except to outward appearances. It’s this part you need to get over. I’m sorry 💐

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Zamummy · 08/02/2023 21:08

BankOfDave · 08/02/2023 21:03

I am just scared to end up being a single mom of 2

Do you not think you already are, except to outward appearances. It’s this part you need to get over. I’m sorry 💐

The issue is so much deeper than that... torn between 2 cultures. In our culture men are allowed multiple wives and therefore, they might see cheating as normal.

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GoldDuster · 08/02/2023 21:22

What's worse, being a single mom of 2 or putting up with his fuckwittery for the rest of your days, being told that you should be grateful to be "the chosen one" and all his other shags are jealous because you get to wash his undies and clear his breakfast pots?

You have a choice to make. Nobody can make it for you or tell you how you feel but I would one hundred percent be jumping at the lifeline your mum has thrown you. This is not a happy home to raise your kids in, if you stay it will be at great cost to them in the long run. I don't know if you have a daughter, but if this wouldn't be good enough for her, then don't accept it for yourself.

Fairislefandango · 08/02/2023 21:40

Oh come on, OP. This man is a grade A arsehole. He's not even trying to act like he's not an arsehole. Whatever culture you are from, he is treating you with contempt and disrespect. And his 'women envy you, you're so lucky to have me' line is just nauseating. Who the actual fuck does he think he is?!

You can continue to swallow this bullshit and say 'Oh but it's cultural' if you like, but you will never have a happy life with this pig of a man. And your children will grow up thinking this is how men get to behave and this is what women have to put up with. Is that the relationship model you want for them?!

Lucyccfc68 · 09/02/2023 05:38

Your Mum told you to leave him, so culture clearly isn’t an issue or she would have told you to just put up with it because it’s part of your culture.

The thought of going it alone is scary, but as another poster said, you are more or less a single Mum already. I’ll bet that as well as the cheating, he leaves you to do everything around the house and with the children. His attitude tells me that he has worn you down that much that you don’t feel you have the confidence to leave.

You are very lucky that your Mum will support you. Go and talk to her.