There’s a thing in the Times today about a Facebook group called “Are We Dating the Same guy?” where women post photos of their boyfriend and ask if anyone knows if they have any red flags.
I can see this is useful to find out if your new boyfriend is actually going out with loads of people or if they are a total fuckwit (has a pattern of endlessly ghosting, borrows lots of money). Perhaps it’s a bit hard on people where things just didn’t work out.
What do you think?
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Are We Dating the Same Guy?
CruCru · 05/02/2023 13:23
Tempname123 · 06/02/2023 22:12
I'm in one of the facebook groups for this (they have ones in different cities). It's really good! The number of men who are cheating or have loads of red flags. The women all share them and quite often someone is saved from going on a date or getting more serious with someone who is awful. Often the man is cheating, or is just downright nasty. Sometimes there are just funny posts about how dull the man is. Occasionally someone has really good feedback about the guy.
It's good. And these FB groups wouldn't be necessary if the men were decent, so don't feel sorry for them.
Shallysally · 05/02/2023 13:26
I think people who post pictures of their current men in that group need to think about how they would feel if people were doing this about them!
People have a right to privacy, and I sure as hell wouldn’t want my picture, and probable failings as a human being, posted on a group on Facebook!
obje · 30/09/2023 19:22
I think if you get to the stage of doing this you need to question why you're with the person in the first place
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