Just that really. Our marriage unraveled last year when a long term affair was discovered by me but since then I have discovered that my husband was cheating on nights out and stag dos from the beginning of our marriage. Think taking wedding ring off to chat with women etc. We have children together and they were born after the cheating started. I honestly had no idea and feel so utterly betrayed, I am finding it hard to cope.
My husband is wanting to divorce as he says that he liked the last OW better than me and that he deserves better but yet wants me to be happy. This is a man who followed me in our early twenties when I relocated for my career, proposed to me, declared his love throughout and now it has all been a sham. 😔
He says he has no instruction manual on how to deal with this and is absolutely without emotion. Just keeps saying that he is a good father.
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My husband has cheated throughout our ten year marriage
Lillybean34 · 05/02/2023 11:03
ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 05/02/2023 11:04
He's the worst kind of father.
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Choconut · 05/02/2023 16:33
I've been through similar OP, our 25 year relationship/marriage turned out to be sham. Mine also thought he was god's gift to women and was never to blame for anything - basically he blamed me for anything that went wrong in his life. Turns out he ticks every box for covert narcissism, wouldn't surprise me if yours was a narc to. The lies, gas lighting, manipulation is incredible, he has no emotion because people are pawns to him- useful or not useful - and he has low empathy and no remorse. All typical with narcs.
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