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He was scrolling through bumble during our date

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Anotherdatingfail · 05/02/2023 08:00

Went on a first date yesterday, had a few drinks and a bite to eat, and I thought things were going well.

Towards the end of the date, when I was walking back from the ladies, I could see he was scrolling through bumble on his phone :-/

I feel like this is disrespectful, and I’m a bit upset that he was looking for alternative options whilst we were still out. Having said that, I am at the point with dating where I’m questioning my own judgement on situations!

Would you be ok with this?

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KissTheRainAgain · 05/02/2023 12:14

determinedtomakethiswork · 05/02/2023 11:44

Are you saying that she should go by what he says rather than by what she's seen him do?

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I’m saying that if it were me on a date and the girl was busy trying to see what was on my phone screen while I believed her to be out of the room, I would be uncomfortable because she’s not respecting my privacy.

tothelefttotheleft · 05/02/2023 14:33

@KissTheRainAgain

So he's on a dating site while on a date but it's her fault for noticing?!

Op has he messaged you since?

Always4Brenner · 05/02/2023 14:34

Block delete move on. Thank god I’ve decided no dating ever again.

Keepyourmummysboys · 05/02/2023 14:36

Has he even asked to see you again?

billy1966 · 05/02/2023 14:38

Really rude.

Move on.

Johnnysgirl · 05/02/2023 14:39

Would you be ok with this?
Why do you ask, op? Would you really give it another go if he contacts you again?

Sunshine275 · 06/02/2023 16:28

I just think it’s a first date, I’ve done the same to be honest in the past, it’s those moments of what do I do when they’re at the loo. I wouldn’t switch things off just because he was noseying at an app, bit different if you were seeing each other, he could have been on Instagram, Facebook, etc. Let this go, have another date and see how you feel, you can always mention it in Jest that you noticed.

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OneFrenchEgg · 06/02/2023 17:31

Well it was the end of the night and clearly hadn't gone great for him (in terms of a match) so he was scrolling while you were in the loo. Not brilliant but hadn't you picked up the vibe it wasn't going anywhere?

SherlockStones · 06/02/2023 20:14

emptythelitterbox · 05/02/2023 09:57

Next
He's rude and disrespectful.
Don't pay for meals for men.
Meet for one drink or a coffee.

When there is real equality between the sexes as in pay, childcare, health care, clothing hair makeup costs, birth control, then you can pay.

50/50 dating is pretend equality thought up by men do do even less than they already do.

What a load of absolute crap

WunWun · 06/02/2023 20:19

Please tell me you're not planning on seeing him again?

ToBeOrNotToBee · 06/02/2023 20:22

Bin him.

Exclusive or not, its just rude.

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