So, this has been a difficult issue in my adult life. A childhood friend of mine has just sent me an email full of anger and resentment and a list of everything I apparently did wrong.
We stopped being friends when we became adults because she became so self absorbed and did not behave like a friend at all, putting me down, only talking about herself, demanding attention and frankly I had enough of it. The friendship fizzled out quite naturally although we never actually cut contact.
She must be having a retrospective right now because I’ve really been savaged by a missive with all the things I did wrong. She takes literally no responsibility for anything.
We live in the same town, have friends in common, see each other in the supermarket etc.
How do I go forward from here. Cutting contact isn’t an option.
I understand now how she seriously cannot see anything from anyone other than her perspective. She is angry with the world and me but me especially for letting her down, not supporting her etc etc. Now she is very communicative about all the difficulties in her life. No acknowledgment that other people have had difficulties too. She has rewritten her life narrative so that she is entirely the victim.
How to handle it?