When did you get engaged?

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Been with my boyfriend 5 years in a few months. We have a 1yo

I did specifically say when I fell pregnant please don’t propose just because I am or just after I have the baby.

as I say DS is 1 now and I just I don’t know I don’t see any signs he will I just feel it’ll never jappen

i want to marry him and have his last name

just want to hear your stories and be filled with some hope. Lol

Awww!!! Lovely. 💗

“Why aren’t you just sitting him down and telling him that you’re ready to start planning your wedding, so you want to talk about budgets, saving plans and timescales. You’ve already tied yourselves together in far more long lasting ways than marriage. What does he need to be ready for unless he doesn’t want to get married? This is your future too. The decisions are not all his to make.”

Not RTFT but this with bells on. It really bothers me how self-sufficient, independent women who are adult enough to make the decision to bring a child into
the world suddenly go all passive and helpless about getting married. Why are you suddenly giving him all the power!?!?

I don't get why a proposal is needed when it's something you both want? You can get married without being engaged.

DC's 1st birthday!

2 years, 9 months after meeting, married the following year.

Together 2 years when he proposed. Married <1year later. DD was born 10months after we got married.
We owned separately before marriage then sold and bought a family home whilst I was pregnant.

We were both clear on no DC before marriage. Him because he's "traditional", me because I wanted him to choose me before I chose to carry his DC.

About a year.

I don’t really understand why you told him not to propose when you were pregnant? If we’d unexpectedly become pregnant before marriage I’d have expected us to get married. It’s what we wanted to do anyway, it’s where our relationship was heading. Why wait because you’re worried people might think it’s a ‘shotgun’ wedding? It’s really only misogynists who still think women ‘trap’ men.

Moved in after a year, got engaged after 9 years and married 10 years later 😂

And have a nearly 10 year old

I’ve been engaged 3 times and married once. Also divorced once!

my twopenneth worth - protect yourself legally, enjoy your partner, DC and current situation and buy yourself lots of lovely dresses.

Marriage isn’t what it used to be and there are ways to have equality without it.

Appreciate it’s not really answering your OP so just another view!

We moved in after 8 weeks, DH proposed 2 days short of our 4 year anniversary and we got married 16 months later.

I feel its important in a relationship that u can discuss where its going and what u want out of it, I told dh just after 2 weeks of going out that he was the one 4 me and I wanted to get married and he agreed, we'd been friends 4 a year beforehand so I knew him well enough to say that

Got engaged after 10 months and married a year later, this year will be 6 married

Propose to him then Jesus Christ

We met in September, moved in together in November, and engaged the year after on Xmas day.

Dh proposed after 4 years and we were married 5 months later. It was important for us to have been married before we considered children.

18 months of living 100 miles apart and seeing each other every weekend
Then, he moved in with me. Got engaged (after discussing it - not a surprise proposal) 6 months later. Married 9 months after that. Still together 18 years later.