So how do I start...at the beginning
12 months ago I recieved a fb message from a girl who screenshot a message my bf sent her...when I sent him the message I asked what the hell is this...he said don't know anything then said I'm going bed, but was on fb till 3 in the morning...anyways the girl then sent me more messages the following day saying it looks like it was 2nd account and it shut down the night before, exactly the time I pull him on the message I received from the girl...we went back and forth for months because I knew he was lying to me...he eventually said I could have access to his fb, no messages was coming from girls however on looking at his history I could see over the 15 months we had been together he had friend requested a lot of females...he also had a lot of females blocked which u felt was strange....after another number of rows and him still denying anything I decided to end it at which point he admitted that he messaged girls at night when he was bored and it wasn't anything sexual so he didn't class it as cheating and wasn't doing anything wrong...he said he would stop as he can see it was ruining our relationship and can now see it wasn't right if it was hurting me....fast forard 12 months. We was out on Saturday night and as I came back from the toilet he was messaging someone then deleted the message straightaway, I pulled him on it and he said he didn't know what I was talking about i'd been drinking and went to the toilet...well I left the meal and left him to make his own way home. He then explained the next day it was a message to his kids mum saying he can't talk as I'm on my way back from the toilet...didn't believe his story as he had all night to think of a reason...then the next night he gets a fb message and I say who is that...he says some tart I look at the message and say she is replying to a message you have sent her, when did you message her? He was very vague and couldn't remember then said he replied to a story and it sends a message...to which I say why are you sending messages to girls again...he goes off on one saying I'm obsessed and need to get over it all and trust him...I said I find it insulting that my bf would rather spend his evening sat downstairs in his lounge messaging other woman instead of spending time with me...so my question is do you think it's OK for your partner to message other woman regardless of the context of the messages?
This really is making me ill I've had 12 months of this crap now. I don't think he would get to the point of actually physically cheating, but to me it's still cheating...please help because 12 months and it's still no better and he doesn't get it