Did you end up with your FWB?

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I'm crazy about mine so just interested in others success stories 😊

No

We both married other people. Likely for the best.

Met at uni (I was at uni, he wasn’t - his friend was so he would come up to see him)

We had fun most weekends, then I finished uni, life changed and we fizzled out. We’re friends now, he’s married and I’m genuinely so happy for him. He’s a lovely guy, we had fun it worked at the time for us both but we’re meant to be just friends not a monogamous couple - The FWB arrangement was always us chatting as friends, talking openly about other people etc. but then feeling comfortable ‘scratching each other’s itch’ …. It was always more like a good friendship, with extra bits rather than ‘a romantic relationship’

My friend did. Married and kids.

Never

Nope. Got a great FWB. Have had for several years. We'll never get together in a relationship. Never

Yes, getting married this year

No, and that's the point. If I wanted a relationship, I wouldn't have a FWB.

No, he was very much a friend with benefits rather than a boyfriend, I’m now married to someone else and my FWB is still a very good friend, just without the benefits!

No. As a general rule having feelings for your FWB is a one way street to disaster (I speak with some experience here!)

Best advice I ever got is that when a man tells you he’s not interested in a relationship, listen to him. Don’t try and interpret his actions as contradicting that - he’s literally told you what he wants from this situation.

Nope.

The only one I ever had began to develop 'feelings' after about a year.

Based on that, I cast him adrift..

Tbf, it was all tremendous fun until the feelings emerged.

His lack of understanding of our situation turned out to be incredibly fortunate, for me.

I met the man who is now my very, very long-term partner a few weeks later.

No

No, although to be fair he wasn't really a friend with benefits, just a nice man I knew with benefits! But I knew it wouldn't work long term as he had a dog I didn't like so I cut him off when he started pushing for more as I'd never have made him choose.

God, no. The whole point of a fwb is that there are no feelings.

I'd have been horrified if any of them had been 'crazy about' me.

Nope.

i fell for him, and wasn’t happy being just FWB- he said he didnt want anything serious and thats all he could offer. i decided I can no longer continue this way. worked out well, I met my now husband a few weeks later and he ended up with someone I had always guessed he had feelings for within the same time frame 🙄

so he was ready for a relationship just not with me apparently.

Absolutely not. He fell head over heels for me though which just irritated me massively, as I’d said from the get go, I didn’t have feelings for him nor would I but he carried on in the hope that I would change my mind. It felt a bit underhand to be honest, especially when he started turning a bit OTT with it when I ended it, simply reiterating what I’d originally said. We ended up not even being friends, which is a shame but that’s on him.

No — he’s wonderful, we’re still good friends, both married to other people. I think you should be asking yourself why you’re continuing in a FWB scenario with someone you’ve developed feelings for. That way lies hurt.

Yes, for 5 years. It was not a suitable relationship (huge age gap), so ended in tears (his).

I've had several. Recently ish I had one where we both caught feelings but it was bad timing for both of us so we called it a day. I think of him fondly but looking back I don't think a relationship between the two of us would have worked, for lots of reasons. Others just fizzled out. My last one turned into a long term relationship, 5 years and counting. Not sure we will ever get married, we've both been married before so are a little jaded I suppose, but we are happy.

Yes - we've now been married for 8 years and have two children. I'm obviously now really glad it all worked out as it did for us but looking back we were playing such a dangerous game. I wouldn't recommend anyone else use us as 'inspiration' - I'm sure that for every couple like us there are so, so many more where one person fell for the other and ended up getting hurt.

Well luckily for me we have both fallen for each other and are very happy.

We were friends for a couple of years first which I think really helped.

No because in my mind the point of a FWB was that you didn't want to end up with them, but I know a surprising amount of couples who started as FWBs. In most cases they thought they were looking for an idealised type of partner only to realise after a while that what they actually wanted was right there.

I did end up with my ONS though.

No, I didn't actively choose FWBs, it was just casual sex with guys I thought were good for sex and fun, but not relationship material ( for me). When I got into more serious relationships, they stopped. I was never emotionally invested in them, otherwise they probably would have been more.

No.

I did end up with his car. (Long story.)

I think the whole boundary around fwbs is that it’s defined by being a not-relationship situation.

It’s great that you’re in a relationship with your former friend but if that happened you both fell out of fwb status long ago.

No, but we would have been incompatible relationship wise long term as he wanted kids and he didn't. Great time, but it always had an expiration date. He did take it hard though, but I wouldn't have expected him to give up his dream.

I have been a FWB for a number of women. They have usually fallen for me but I cut it at that point as it wasn't fair on them.