What does " She got with a man " mean in English language?

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Please help me understand what this means.
Does it have positive meaning or negative connotation and why ?
Thank you

It means having sex doesn’t it

I would say it means she hooked up with a man rather than have a relationship with a man. I wouldn't say it was a very positive thing to say.

She shagged him.
Nothing especially negative. A one night stand / short fling.

This is for a child custody evaluation. I said " I had a boyfriend at university". The report states " She got with a man ".

Shagged him.

Had sex, and usually followed by, and got pregnant. Sort of implies one night stand, loose woman, very negative connotations.

It’s very informal language and I’m very surprised to see it in an official report - unless it’s a direct quote - something someone interviewed said about you.

It depends on context. In your example it's got nothing to do with sex, it's a badly-written grammatically incorrect way of wording "she had a boyfriend". It's a vernacular reduction of "she got together with a man".
On a court statement it's all kinds of wrong, and probably irrelevant to the issue at hand (whatever that is).

Got together with would be my preferred option. I think a younger person wrote the report. Got with sounds American

Who wrote the report? And are you in the UK?

Exactly. It is not language I would use. It is not a quote. I did not say it. And this is going to be read by a judge.

Not in the UK but English is widely used where I am based and an official language.

Its throwing a bit of shade IMO.

what do you mean, shade ?

It's written that way to paint you in a bad light.

It has negative connotations and the intention is to make you sound bad.

She means criticism, being derogatory.

I would demand that is changed to "had a relationship" or "had a boyfriend".

Got with suggests sex, not really a relationship.

It doesn’t seem formal enough language for a report to put before a judge if it’s not what was said. Surely the report writer should have written down exactly what you said either “X stated that she had a boy friend at a university” or that “X started a relationship while she was at University”.

If I were bitching about someone I might say “she dumped Y and she got with another man the next weekend” - implies shade to me as in I don’t approve of her actions etc.

And this is going to be read by a judge.

Unless the author of the report is quoting someone and how the rest of the report is written plus what is in it, it will make the author of the report look poorly educated and unprofessional.

The report writer is showing their judgement and or prejudice, whether they meant to or not.

It's informal and negative and unless a direct quote (for example, quoting the person you are disputing child custody with), then it has no place in an official report.
You should ask to have that sentence removed and replaced with a more neutral sentence.
"She had a boyfriend"
"She began a relationship with a man"
"She entered into a relationship with a man"
etc.

It was recorded and I said " I had a a boyfriend".
But the recording has been destroyed. Both the ex and I were interviewed and recorded.

It's being derogatory unfortunately, it's implying a one night stand but emphasising negativity

I would say it is slang and that it is not accurate as you had a boyfriend, i.e. relationship. I would say bring it up with your lawyer if you are concerned, but otherwise, do not worry too much. It is not really the issue the child is what the judge will focus on, not who you slept with when unless it affects the child.

Does the person who wrote it speak English well? It's not really an expression that's used - maybe English is the writer's second language?

Yes,Excellent English.