How do people move on when a long term relationship ends. I know there are some happy stories but there are people who just never get over their relationship ending. Is it just a matter of willpower.
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Honey83 · 25/01/2023 00:48
It's a cliche but time. Time passing really makes a difference. I think also meeting the right person next means that you don't dwell on the past. But yeah, not a people who can move on quickly either!
SpinningFloppa · 25/01/2023 00:22
I find lots of people move on very quickly actually and I always wonder how they do it! Me I’ve been single 6 years, can’t see myself meeting anyone now but I’m definitely unusual most people like I said move on pretty quick ime.
Simulacra · 25/01/2023 10:03
Depends what you mean by “move on”.
I’ve been single for 7 years, I’ve moved on, I’m over my ExH - but to most people I haven’t “moved on” because I didn’t jump into a new relationship within a few months (or at all) - and considering I had young children at the time (now teens), I can’t see as how jumping into something new would have been good for me or my DDs.
I’m really happy on my own, but some people just can’t fathom it.
Watchkeys · 25/01/2023 00:42
It's a self respect thing. If you have a full grasp on the fact that your life is about you, and your ex was part of that, rather than your life being about you and your ex, you recover.
For as long as you keep them in your head as a current part of your life, the relationship will drag you down.
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