I’ve been in touch with an old school friend for about a year. He went AWOL with drug problem and in rehab. I didn’t contact him in that time & just got on with my stuff. He came out of rehab, all good, he video called me first and emphasised what a special bond, deep friendship we have & that he wanted to meet up soon.
I’ve checked in every so often to see how he is. Each time, he suggested: “let’s video call later” or “let’s chat later” but each time, “later” didn’t happen. Flaky. One time he fell asleep, another time he just didn’t follow. So I’ve taken it with a pinch of salt each time & created more distance.
He did it again this time.
“How are you?”
“Better now”
“Great”
”Fancy a chat later?”
I said I was out but yeah, that evening. That evening he asked how my outing had been, I gave brief detail and nothing else.
So the next day, i cheerfully said hi and how yet again, we never did have that chat. I said I’d let him decide from now on how and when he wants to be in touch.I wished him well. Balm in his court, I can’t be fucked any more.
He apologised for not calling, but says that “Are you ok?” would have been more kind from me. He said he struggles “with this” which then reduces his communication.
His reply has left me really confused. I feel like just saying “fuck you” and archiving him. Idk it all feels like a one-sided friendship where I check in with him all the tine. I struggle, too.
Maybe it’s overly dramatic. Idk, feel a bit crap.