Ex just told me he’s expecting baby with OW he left me for

[PooHeads]

Ex partner left me just over a year ago. We have a DC who is now 2. I got all the usual rubbish “I love you but not in love with you” etc. I suspected cheating but he vehemently denied it over and over. We went through some difficult times (having a baby in a pandemic) but we were doing ok and I thought our little family was everything to him. How wrong I was. Turned out he was shagging younger woman at work.

He now lives with OW and today told me via text she’s pregnant. It’s really thrown me. I just feel like I have been so easily replaced. She is literally living the life I had three years ago. Im
still dealing with becoming a single parent, the heartbreak, the shock of the split and now THIS. It feels too much. Any advice from someone who’s been through similar?

I’m really sorry, that is totally crap. Big hugs

What a shit.
But that doesn't help you when your heart's been broken and you wish you could turn back time for your family.

Take comfort in the knowledge that she will never trust him and all will not be as rosy in their relationship as they project. 💐

I would say you have dodged a massive bullet, if he can do that so quickly with someone else he’s not worthy of you or your baby.
He’ll do it again, concentrate on yourself and your baby that’s what’s important now. Take all the support you can and look after yourself. Don’t give him a second thought or the OW shes got to deal with the loser now.

Chances are he will do to her what he did to you. Some day you will see that you had a lucky escape.

Fucking arsehole. If you can afford it treat yourself to something lovely for you and your gorgeous child and just try take your mind of it all xxx

I can only imagine the gut wrenching feeling. The difference between you and her is she will always be uneasy and feeling like he may leave at any time and that’s mo way to live.

I've a punch right in the gut.

But the bright side is that it's 100% final and done. No slinking back, no what ifs. You get to move forward. She has to live with him and he has to live with himself. Poor cow.

It's not I've!

He’s a cheating rat-bag. I think you’ve had a miraculous escape. This man has the morals of a louse. I understand you’re hurting atm, but this hurt will lessen and ease with time. Even if it’s hard to envisage right now, new opportunities will open up in your life in time, and hopefully you will embrace them and move on.

I second this
Once a cheater always a cheater

When the OW becomes the permanent partner they create a vacancy for another OW

Look on the bright side. She’s with a cheating scumbag and you’re not. Just try and put them out of your head as much as possible. No social media stalking, only contact when it’s necessary to do with your child. It won’t be long before he’s at it again

And please don't be there as a listening ear for him when it inevitably goes tits up between them.
Concentrate on yourself and your DC.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Concentrate on yourself and dc Sending lots of love ❤️

So he has ended up back in nappies and drudgery. With someone he didn't choose but used as escapism. You will look back one day and pity him. He deserves what he is getting.

Oh well her turn soon... all that glitters isn't good and he'll be trying to make it seem rosy after his monumental fu*k up.

He’ll soon realise that the shine wears off once a new baby arrives and she’ll be the one worrying if he’s found someone else while you will be happily moving on with your life.

It’s really hard but try to rise above it, it’ll make him happy if he knows two women want him. Pretend not to care book a weekend away for yourself and your DD to take your mind off things and show him what he could of had.

You lose them the way you got them, so she will be a single mum within a year…he sounds like he leaves destruction in his wake when things get “real”

If I was the OW I would be feeling insecure. As others have said, she’s no longer the fun escape. From those I’ve spoken to (in my job) who have walked out on a partner and small child/children, it’s pretty rare that things go well with the new partner as that relationship starts with a flaw and pressures the first one didn’t start with. She hasn’t got the life you had, she’s got a life of doubt and second best. You, on the other hand @PooHeads, have a clear conscience and the chance of a future not build on lies and deception. If I had to choose, I’d rather be you any day 💐

Make sure you have a rock solid schedule in place for your dc with ex. Make it clear this won't be changing when his next dc arrives..

There is a chance they might be fine OP. And live happy families forever. All you can do is not circle the drain thinking about it.

Make sure he pays for your child everything he should and go and live fabulous you. There are numerous strong women who started as a single mum early on.

Grieve your previous dreams and make new ones. What else can you do?

He’s not exactly a catch is he? Soon as family life is a bit too much hard work, he’ll repeat history all over again, won’t he?

You will, eventually, realise what a lucky escape you have had.

Focus on your beautiful daughter and enjoy your time with her.

And make a voodoo doll of him

And he will do the same thing to her. You had a lucky escape you can rebuild your life. Stay strong

This is a man who has had children with two women in what? Three years?
What a hero.
Wise words above. Don't give him headspace.