This might be a long post but I need some perspective.
We have been together for 12 years and have a 3 yo DD. We are both in very stressful jobs and have moved house a year ago and have a big mortgage.
My OH is a strong willed, very independent man who likes to do things his way and also likes to hold a grudge.
I have a history of anxiety and depression and have been quite clingy in the past.
We have very different upbringing and are culturally quite different. I am eastern European. Family is everything and emotions are big. He is very, very British and his parents are divorced. His mother is a difficult person. Controlling and manipulative.
So. She invited him to her holiday home in a far away country. He said to her that I will probably not want to be left here with dd and she agreed ro pay for her flight as well. I was never asked whether I want to join etc....so I was not particularly happy about this. I can't afford the flight and also can't take 2 weeks off.
I donhowever have a week off during the time they are away, so I looked into options. I found d some cheap flights and a bu ch if friends to go away with for a week in the sun.
I would arrive back a day after him. Although I agreed initially to pick him up, now plans have changed. So I told him and he was raging. I understand he is not happy so I said I'd try to find someone to pick him up as he refuses to take public transport home after a king flight with toddler.
Now we argued, he says he hates me. I am controlling and selfish and he wants to end the relationship.
I feel a bit lost and shocked.
Am I selfish? Should I change my plans and leave early to get him From the airport. I obviously can't put 12 years of relationship into this post....
So ask away.
I just don't know what to do