Partner watching Andrew Tate

[MadameDe]

A few weeks ago, I discovered that my partner had been watching Andrew Tate videos.

At the time, I didn't even know who he was and didn't care. I even watched a couple of his less offensive videos which basically sold the idea of getting up early in the morning and going to work which I thought was harmless.

Since then I've noticed him watching more of his stuff. Every new thing about the trial and every new video - all of it basically. Whilst he says he doesn't like what he says about women, he also says "he just wants to see what happens next" and "there's no evidence for him to be held".

I'm curious to know whether this kind of thing would be a problem for most women. I don't know why I feel so uncomfortable about it but I find it really odd that he's so interested.

Is this a wind up?

Run

It would be a problem for me.

How on earth does he know what evidence there is? That’s come straight from an Andrew Tate minion.

Does he behave well towards you? If he was a Tate fan it would show in his behaviour and opinions. Just because someone has an Interest in something or someone does not mean they agree.

He's really loving towards me. He's never hurt me, when he's with me he helps around the house, tells me he loves me and makes me feel happy.

Would I know by now if there was anything more to worry about?

We've been together nearly a year.

Stop trying to cause issues fgs, are you his gf or his mother?

In my honest opinion you would know by now if he took Tate seriously it would show in how he acts. Some of us just have weird interests watching serial killer documentaries, reading mein Kampf or Karl-Marx doesn't make us serial killers or nazis or communists xx

His girlfriend. That’s why she’s concerned that he’s a fan of a misogynistic woman hating prick. You know, like a black person might have concerns about their partner being a fan of a racist. Perfectly reasonable.

I think he's an absolute knob.

But I think there's a difference between watching and reading different things so we don't live in an echo chamber and then actively supporting someone.

He probably does have some worthwhile thoughts. Nobody is all bad or all good. Even Denis Nielson loved his dog after all. But he's also allegedly a human trafficking, abusive pimp who is that stupid he loves to spout about it in public. His takedown was long overdue.

Normal well adjusted blokes might have a listen in and then move on with their lives, its the impressionable incel weirdos we have to worry about.

In the nicest possible way, watching Andrew Tate is possible as a form of entertainment.

But it's the engagement with the narrative that you have to watch. This man is not going to become a beast with you overnight, but continued engagement?

You will be one of these girlfriends who has "pet cams" all over the house and endless, snarling texts to check where you are. And sometimes he will be sweet, but not so often.

What he does is pretty key. Someone who keeps engaging with this stuff is indulging misogyny. Not every man is a misogynist, but I think a lot of men use Tate as a kind of guilty pleasure. He says things they want to.

My last ex was lovely to me. But it became apparent he didn't like women. He would use derogatory words about female celebs. And other things that didn't suit right with me. No matter how well he treated me, that shit wasn't acceptable to me. So I called it a day.

I figured, if they don't like women - once the honeymoon stages of the relationship are over, that mindset will be turned onto me anyway. Gone will be the warmth and encouragement and in its place, put downs and negging. And - fuck that shit.

I'm so glad I left and actually, wish I'd been a bit quicker off the mark if anything.

His comment about there being no proof against tate shows you exactly who he is. He isn't just watching for fun. He likes this guy. That's very worrying. Seriously, time to go.

Is your boyfriend 14?

I do get how confusing life is for youngsters. They are being indoctrinated that any differences between the sexes are entirely cultural. And anyone who says otherwise is a bigot. Into this ideology come the likes of Tate who affirms that there are indeed differences between the sexes. That's about as far as I agree with the man.

Hopefully your boyfriend is mature enough not to take the silly laddie seriously.

(The men in my life all reckon Andrew Tate is trying to compensate for his baldness.)

Did you just post about this a couple of days ago?
I wouldn't worry. I doubt we'll be hearing much from Andrew Tate for quite a while.

Watching it all doesn't mean you have to agree with what he says, I'm sure plenty of people who dislike him will be watching stuff about the trial

If he’s looking at things from a news point of view, I wouldn’t have an issue.

If he’s looking at things and agreeing with Tate’s “musings” then I’d be running away as fast as I could.

Tate is a grifter. He exploits women and is derogatory towards women.

He also exploits men. He feeds them a load of crap to get them riled up with regards to how they are hard-done-by. They then subscribe to whatever shit he is peddling. And he then sits there happily counting up his monthly profits whilst chucking out the odd social media post designed to rile the men up even more.

Tate is a Grade-A arsehole grifter. I would have zero respect for anyone who followed or agreed with him.

Doesn't matter. Both a GF and a mother are women. That class of human that Tate likes to abuse.

Are women really supposed to put up with their rights being debated in their own homes?

I hope Tate rots in prison for the rest of his natural.

I agree @MrsTerryPratchett woukdnt it be a service to all women if he stayed locked up in a Romanian slammer for the rest of his natural born. Unfortunately I presume he'll have to be brought back to this country won't he?

@MadameDe you need to go by your bf's actions as to whether he is just curios about what AT has to say for himself versus being sucked into his narrative.

I turned up the radio the other day when there was a talk radio discussion about him, that doesn't make me an AT follower, it just made me realise if I spent any more time listening to him it would be wasted time I'd never get back.

Was pleased to hear that he’s now detained until the end of February.

Even if he gets out then, pending trial, he’ll have had 2 months of his “genius” being curtailed.

As an aside, Musk is a twat for reinstating Tate’s Twitter account.

Maybe.

If you're always agreeable and things generally go his way, it takes a lot longer for them to show their true colours.

I think it's a 'wait & see' situation. But don't be a frog!!

people get very involved in current affairs & want to follow trials/stories closely. It doesn't mean they admire/follow the persons ideology or anything.

It’s a bit of a red flag tbh

Yuk. Massive turn off for me.

It’s one thing following the news story about Andrew Tate. I’ve watched some of his videos out of curiosity.

To express the opinion that ‘there is no evidence for him to be held’ would be really concerning to me. Has he some sort of inside knowledge of the police case?? 🙄

To make a statement like that is conspiracy theory territory, rooted in misogyny and demonstrates a lack of critical thinking. 🚩 🚩 🚩