So me and husband were having a “break”. However it wasn’t told to me that it was an official “break” he told me he wanted a divorce. He said I make him miserable and he said we will eventually divorce and we are free to move on to other relationships. During this time he dated other women and slept with at least one of them. I was upset seeing him move on so quickly. I called his cousin who is also his best friend for advice. We were discussing about how to get my husband to see sense and come home to his wife and child. His cousin made a move on me and kissed me during the conversation. I pulled away and sent him home.
months later, husband says he doesn’t want to divorce and wants to try again. So I forgave him for leaving me and accepted he went onto seeing other people. I didn’t tell him his cousin kissed me. But once we made up, his cousin came out with it and told my husband. My husband was fuming and left me again. Again months later he said he has forgiven me for this incident and is willing to move on. Everything went back to normal in our marriage.
5 months later husband packed up and left again. He said he can’t forget the incident with his cousin. I was confused as he said he had forgiven this and was willing to move past it. This time he was angrier than ever. He went to my grandparents, cousins, relatives houses and told them about the incident. However he completely twisted it saying it was a full blown affair and we slept together, which didn’t happen, as explained to him by me and his cousin. We have a DC together and he is now saying he doesn’t trust me and that DC might not be his and is going to do a dna test. DS is his. And deep down he knows it. But again I feel that it’s part of his revenge ploy as he is going around to my whole family saying the child may not be his and he is doing a dna test because apparently I am an untrustworthy slut who sleeps around. Baring in mind NONE of the sort happened. His cousin only kissed me which he forgave me for and believed us until months later he blew this up into something huge.
I told him I am depressed and suicidal with how he handled the situation exposing false accusations to my whole family, humiliating me and twisting the story. He said once he does his dna test and confirms whether he is the father (which he is) he would go to the courts for full custody of the child and have dc removed from my care because I am an unfit mother for feeling depressed and suicidal and that I’m attention seeking and I bought this all on myself. He also says he is tempted to post all over social media and tell my neighbours that I had an affair with his cousin, again completely twisting the truth that he had “forgiven” me for.
please give your opinions on my situation whether my husband is handling this correctly or whether I bought this all on myself and deserve this? As far as me and my parents are concerned he is completely out of order exposing false facts to my whole family and he shouldn’t be getting everyone involved like this, especially since it was his choice to continue with the marriage. But my husband is convinced this is all my fault and I deserve this. What do you all think?