When is the last time you and your partner had a proper cuddle?

[StarSol]

My partner and I have been together for 13 years and married for 7. We have an 18 month old.

I was thinking about this recently as ever since husband and I had our daughter we kind of went into survival mode because she was very sick for awhile. I think for the first three months of her life we didn't even touch each other other than goodnight kisses. She was a preemie and had very high needs! It was really rather depressing If I'm being honest. At six months we started hugging and kissing again and sometimes we would even have sex once or twice a month! 😂

At one year we started gradually having sex more frequently but it was not how it was pre baby for obvious reasons. It was very much "quick! She's napping! Let's get it done before she wakes up or we might not get a chance for another week!" 😂🤷🏻‍♀️ but before there would be lots of stary eyes, staring lovingly at each other, kissing touching and of course the cuddling! The cuddling was usually what started everything. Aw the cuddling.

We've cuddled occasionally but it wasn't a GOOD cuddle you know? Maybe this is just my personality but I've very into cuddling. Maybe I'm cuddle-sexual. Add that to the list LGBTQ+!

Anyways we used to regularly cuddle anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour a day. Often first thing in the morning and of course at night. I like to cuddle in very intimate positions like a full blown lemur embrace. Arms and legs wrapped around holding each other very tight breathing in each others existence.

Anyways we had a GOOD long comfy cuddle this morning with no sexual expectations and it was like something was released within me. It was so nice. It left me wondering why we ever stopped doing that! My husband promptly reminded me of the toddler sleeping in the next room was what happened and we very much had other things on our minds so it was only natural things were disrupted for awhile. I very much plan to bring this back permanently.

I require high quality cuddles on a regular basis! It does not have to be every day but I'm hoping for 3-4 times a week minimum!

What about you guys? Did you stop cuddling? Were you never a cuddly couple to begin with? If you stopped cuddling did you ever start again. Are you too cuddle-sexual? 🧐

Been together 16 years and still regularly lots of cuddles.

Me and my Partner cuddle all the time especially in bed

So long I can't even remember.

Every day, multiple times a day. We both love cuddling. Same with DC.

Whenever we feel like it, even (or should I say especially) when the dc pull a face at our lovey-dovey behaviour. Been together 15 years and do are 10 & 11.

I don’t think I’ve ever read the word ‘cuddle’ so many times in my life.

I’ll be honest, the idea of doing this: ‘Arms and legs wrapped around holding each other very tight breathing in each others existence’ for an hour a pop, three or four times a week, makes me feel a bit ill. And if my DH described himself (or anyone else) as ‘cuddle-sexual’, I might have to leave him.

I set the alarm and when it goes off in the morning I hit the snooze for ten minutes of cuddles. Proper wrapped around each other. Lovely rush of endorphins to start the day lol

We have a hug and a kiss every day, but no cuddling in bed really- I find it a bit claustrophobic for some reason! We'll hold hands in bed though, as we start waking up.

We had a long sofa cuddle on Saturday, I was knackered so used him as a big hairy cushion for a couple of hours

We cuddled on the sofa last night whilst I was having a minor meltdown about coming into work today and we always cuddle in bed for a few minutes before sleep. Not in the mornings because he gets up so early and doesn't disturb me but he always drops a kiss on my head before he leaves.

I would feel very unhappy and neglected in a relationship without affection and cuddles but then I don't have very young kids and that can be a killer in a relationship

Most mornings and nights. We had nice cuddle in bed before DH went to pick up breakfast this morning.

27 years, we had a cuddle yesterday morning in bed as we enjoyed a long lie.

We cuddle a lot (married 8 years with two kids) but not for hours at a time

Me and DP cuddle a lot but only been together 9 months. I like to properly wrap my legs around him. Sometimes it leads to sex but not always. After a recent surgery we cuddled for 6 hours in one go. If we didn't cuddle I think our relationship would go downhill fast.

Yes cuddlers here. If we are standing in kitchen we cuddle first, a nice, long, cuddle. The kids like to run up and join in and we shout family hug, which is probably a bit cringe for some but that's us. The kids get jealous if DH and I hug.

So if no kids running up to us we manage an eye gaze and kiss. DH always takes it too far and picks me up, which ends in us nearly falling over. If people saw us through the window we'd probably look like nutters.

I love bed cuddles and like the full on wrap legs and arms around. I couldn't manage if DH wasn't a cuddler. I was told as a kid I wasn't into cuddles (parent who was a bit cold and blamed it on me). So now I'm catching up for lost time. I love the warm feeling a cuddle brings.

Sex wise it's not enough but DH and I manage it somehow (busy lives and kids take up so much time). Bloody love a cuddle though.

I love cuddles, I’m in a new relationship so inevitably cuddles always lead to sex! Especially as our time together is limited. But he likes cuddles too which is nice. Most of all I like kissing (aka snogging) him!

Haha cuddle sexual was in jest. I know it's not for everyone but I just can't get enough of it! 😂 In glad your relationship works for you though. 🙂

That was a lovely response to a VERY grumpy post. 😂 Thank you mom glad you’ve got a relationship that works for you, as well.

Lots - waking up cuddle every day, going to sleep cuddle sometimes (especially if it's cold!), on the sofa in the evenings, random times as we pass each other during the day. I'm not one for PDAs so only ever in private (or in front of the DCs who tell us to get a room).

I like to cuddle in very intimate positions like a full blown lemur embrace. Arms and legs wrapped around holding each other very tight breathing in each others existence.

🤮 I would karate chop anyone who tried to subject me to this.

I’m glad, not mom! 🤣

Same. I was reading the OP with steadily mounting horror and feelings of claustrophobia. She seems delightful, but this sounds horrific to me! Also, physically uncomfortable and super boring.

And I’m very much a huggy/kissy person. But, zero desire to spend an hour breathing in my husband’s existence.

About an hour ago. We’ve been together 14 years and married for 7.

Ive never breathed in his existence for an hour though. It sounds rather sinister, sorry 😳

DH goes to his office (home office) to work v early (6.30) and first thing I do when I get up is go to see him and if he's not in (on) a meeting we cuddle. Every morning. Other times as well, obviously.

Actually it's funny you say this. This was actually a very serious first date discussion because I knew that not everyone likes to have their space invaded like this. I was just very upfront that I like a lot of touching and boyfriends in the past have complained that I am too clingy so if that isn't his thing he has been warned. His eyes lit up and he just said "I love clingy!" I guess it goes to show there's someone out there for everyone. 😆