Is husband being a dixk??

[Jlk37]

Hey!

Looking for some advice, not sure if I'm going insane! Husband recently employed a new assistant manager.... A very attractive 20 something complete with big fake lips and a face botoxed to within an inch of its life.
A little background. Husband has gotten a little too friendly with 2 colleagues in the past. One, single lady, whereby she clearly flirted in messages sending him sultry selfies and that malarkey, he didn't take the bait but didn't rebuff. Called him out when they had dinner together at a work event, alone despite dozens of colleagues there. Took a long time, and lots of fighting for him to admit that it was inappropriate. The other lady, married, but almost daily calls, working in different areas of company now, so no need for such consistent contact, which has dwindled significantly lately, going from at least one call a day, to one in the past month. He would always refer to her in her full name when she'd come up in conversation between us, as if distancing himself from the actual closeness of their friendship. Had lunch on the quiet with her one day while away with work, but told me he had lunch with a male colleague, but u just knew he was lying, so checked work phone when he came home, and there it was a message from her saying lunch together at 1,and where to meet. Called him out on it, insisted he lied because he didn't want me to feel uncomfortable. Like really 🙄 Strange, or not strange??
Anyway, so here we are now, he employed this young one, whom loves to have her tits out, and I mean out out on display. The first day I went into his work place, I was greeted by her boobs literally out for all to see. Husbands face fell when he saw me, and said oh I must speak to her about her dress code....4 hours into the work day, seriously clear to me he wasn't going to say anything until I showed up and my face clearly said it all. So anyway, I explained I'm not overly comfortable with him being in a position every day whereby she could be walking around with her tits hanging out, and him of course having a good look. Also, asked him if he found her attractive, he replied ya she's a good looking girl. Didn't even flinch. I almost got sick. Why, given the stuff in the past would he choose to employ someone who could prove tempting. Am I being ridiculous here, because if I am please don't hold back

He was a dick for the two instances you've already mentioned from the past.

You are a dick insomuch as you should never have a say in who is employed at his business or have a say in how he manages staff and for judging a book by it's cover - that is highly inappropriate.

You have no idea if this woman is entirely capable, driven and professional in her role, you're making assumptions based on how she looks and your husband's past behaviour.

If you don't trust your husband, that's an issue in your relationship you need to deal with and is nothing to do with this woman. You, I or anyone else may disagree with how she dresses but it's not any of our business.

Ok, so read the update and it's good you're taking comments on board, but still don't seem to understand how this woman dresses is absolutely nothing to do with you and is none of your business. It shouldn't even be a discussion point.

OP, with all due respect, your hostility and vile comments towards this woman who has done nothing wrong are uncalled for. A woman can look however she wants and if your husband desires any sort of inappropriate relationship with her, that is the fault of your husband entirely and not anything that the woman in question has done wrong.

It sounds as if he has form for inappropriate behaviour with colleagues and as such, you're now insecure about it happening again, but keeping him on a short lead won't stop him, it'll just make him more secretive.

At the end of the day it doesn't seem like his behaviour will change and you either need to accept that this life of insecurity, uncertainty and hurt is forever or you need to break yourself free from this relationship and go your separate ways so you no longer have the stress and worry of wondering what your husband is up to at all times.

I will really stress though, being jealous and bitter towards woman who are doing absolutely nothing wrong towards you will not help your mental health, they are not the ones who have betrayed your trust.