Greek Orthodox beliefs

[maybeinanotherlife1922]

Hiya mumsnetters

I'm in a situation that I don't want to be nor did I ever set out to be where I am right now .

Does anyone know or is a Greek Orathadox on here please ? I met this man 3 years ago and I never believed in love at first site until the moment I laid eyes on him . A lot happened. He's married . So was I at that point but we divorced due too years of physical and emotional abuse .

The way I felt and still feel about this man has nothing to do with my situation. I work in a male dominated profession and have hobbies which are 80 percent males . So if I was looking to be loved or a way out I would of experienced this before .

When I used to hear about people who looked at someone and knew they loved them I thought it was untrue. Until it happened to me ! This man has been married for 20+ years . Never cheated and never been in a situation where he has feelings for someone else . I kept my feelings towards him well hidden until he started crying after a few months saying how disgusted he was of him self because he's in love with me .

For days I just laughed it off until one night I also admitted it . We talked a lot that evening and both agreed if he wasn't married we would of been together. He even said to me that the first time he saw me there was a connection too . Which I find mad and it's mad me so interested in this kind of stuff .

Obviously the best thing for us would be what we are doing now and that's no contact what so ever but it hurts. And I don't know why because he was never mine . I would wait my entire life to find someone who I had the same feelings as I had and still have for him . But I'm not interested in anyone and I never will be .

After my husband I never wanted a relationship ship again and I still done . Apart from this man .

He's a Greek Orthodox and would call me the devil. Like I was there to test him . Please no nasty comments. I m just so curious about the religion and what they do in these situations.

Thankyou

You will find other friends, because you are a person who is worth having a friendship with. This man did not want to be your ‘friend’, he wanted to be your lover, and even if he has done the right thing in stepping back, it’s pretty unfriendly to blame you.

’the 👿 ‘ Blimey. Tell him to get his own pitchfork and put it where Harry puts his Elizabeth Arden.

This - Greek Orthodox are Christians, but in all/most religions (apart from Mormons maybe), adultery is a sin.
It's a bit extreme for him to say the devil sent you, but if he's very devout he may believe that the situation has been set up as a temptation by the devil.

I have to winder if his first marriage broke down due to his adultery (his second wife could possibly be the ow in that), he believes he's been forgiven once for adultery - and perhaps made things "right" by marrying her .... But naturally thinks that if he repeats that same major sin, having been forgiven once and having the opportunity to learn from it; he's skating in very thin I've and mst not be forgiven for another case of adultery (and lose his access to heaven).

It's notable he's apparently the only one )or in the minority) to not cheat when he has had opportunities; maybe for the above reason.

*he's skating on very thin ice

I definitely need to put boundaries in place with the opposite sex

Definitely. Most straight men don't want platonic friendships with women, particularly if you are remotely attractive. Their friends are other blokes. It's happened to you a lot that you thought what you were projecting is friendliness yet it ended up being taken as flirtation or an invitation to flirt so definitely review how you come across and your mannerisms around the opposite sex.

No expert on the GO church.

You sound vulnerable after your last relationship and I think should address that, with some counselling perhaps. This man is full of it. It seems all about him, with some elements of hypocrisy. If he was as straight up as he claims then he would manage any feelings towards you privately, maybe with guidance from his religion. He would not be having these sorts of conversations with you behind his wife's back.

Give over. You clearly haven't read properly and mistake Greece with Turkey or Albania or...... 🙄