We don’t talk anymore - am I the only lonely?

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No one talks anymore

I WFH full time. (No scope to change this in the short term for complex reasons). Occasional Teams / email messages but that’s all. No friendly chats.
I no longer have work friends or work banter.

Real life friends never phone anymore. My phone calls go unanswered. Most of my friends are no longer chatty on WhatsApp - just occasional brief messages. Another friend told me “no one chats on the phone these days, it’s old fashioned”

No one wants to meet for dinner / coffee etc.

I’m in a couple of hobby groups (so please don’t suggest joining a club as I already did that), and quite frankly they keep me sane, but sadly a lot of recent meet ups have been cancelled due to Xmas / rubbish wet weather. I also don’t feel like I’ve made friends yet, more acquaintances still.

My mum is fab, she’s the only person I speak to regularly.

I have DH & Dc, but DH works long hours and isn’t a chit chat type, and DC is only 4.

I rely on social media too much, and actually got a bit upset a couple of times recently when I realised social media connections who I exchange a bit of banter with aren’t my real friends. (Long story, but that’s the gist)

Is this life in 2022? Or just me?

These posts have made me feel more normal. I’m a bit older than the rest, I think, but retired six years ago at 77, then along came the lockdown, grands are older,
and feel I feel isolated and depressed. Thank God DH is still around and we’re both mobile and can drive but not much socialization these days. But at our age I guess it’s normal as we’ve lost some loved ones. Hope everyone finds their happy place.

Yes op your right. My friend group small. I message my walk group for coffee. No reply. Had enough it now. Nobody commits to things or wants to! I just do things myself now beach etc