Why am I feeling like the "abuser"?

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I started seeing someone in April last year.
It's been up and down to say the least.
He moved the goal posts daily to accommodate his changing behaviour.
We were together but when he decided to text other women and sleep with them ...he decided we weren't together and not official (obviously so he wasn't the bad guy)
He twists everything and makes me feel like I'm crazy.
He will repeatedly make me jealous and if I say anything he will throw in my face "your being crazy " "are you starting with the crazy messages again"
When I'm not crazy -I'm just reacting to the way he is being with me.
He gives me the silent treatment if I ask too many questions-but I just want to know where I stand,they are just normal questions asking for clarity.
Now he says he's sick of my "abusive"

I look in the mirror and hate myself and wonder am I abusive
I'm not -I wouldn't hurt anybody
There's one day I think we are together and he's interested then he tells me about a woman who can't stop messaging him and he will smirk.
I said to him well she can have you then-and I asked how he met her and he then switched it around saying "are you going to go crazy again"
I'm fed up

Oh come on OP. Get shut

Why in earth are you still giving this man any airtime at all?

He's skilled at turning everything around, and will do so for the rest of the time you have him in your life. If you think you feel crazy and turned around now, it will just get worse.

Please just leave him, block him in everything including social media so he can't contact you.

So dump the twat!

He sounds manipulative, I think even the sanest person in the world would react to their partner talking about how interested another person is in them so don't think too much in to your reaction. To be honest I wouldn't even do this to someone I was FWB with, it's completely unnecessary and cruel. You need to end things and find somebody who values you and your feelings.

Easy fix. Dump him. Ghost him if you are feeling pissed off with him. But dump him, no explanation. Channel your best John Malkovich/ Vicomte De Valmont

"It is beyond my control!"

and sod him!

He is a total prick. Dump him and stop letting him mess with your head any more.

Your life will be much lovelier without him in it.

Op I'm almost certain you are repeating the pattern of a relationship that was established in your childhood with a parent. Until you work out the false beliefs you have about your self worth you will seek out partners that cannot respect you.

Come on OP, you're letting him treat you like this, that's why he does it. Do yourself a favour and dump him. You can do a lot better

Stay away from anyone who makes you feel bad.

Stick to that, and you'll never have a bad relationship again. If you have nothing better to do with your life, spend your time pulling apart the psychology of the toxic relationships.

Time to ditch him - gather up some self-respect.

Awful man

These Fckers do this

My ex did this
Then went on to try to kill me and he hurt our two kids also

Please get out NOW

please know your value xxxxxxx

Let this be a catalyst to work out why your bar is so low and be brave enough to decide you want, need and deserve more.

He's an abuser and how do you know it's HIM? Because you're the one tearing your own hair out questioning your own sanity. AND - questioning your own compassion. Do you think abusers question if they are abusive? Of course not.

Now listen up cause I'm about to free you -

You do or say something obviously hurtful to someone you are about to love. Do you:
A. Apologise and attempt never repeat the behaviour
B. Smirk at your own magnificence.

EVIL people do the later. Straight up evil.
I've never hurt someone deliberately or not and then smirked about it. Have you? (Well, unless you maybe count a play fight with brother or something). That shit isn't normal.

So, question 2
Does someone who smirks at your discomfort, pain or emotional distress
A. Love you
B Hate you and mean you harm.

Its the later. SEE him now for who he is. Qnd run. Run fast and run far. Because you are in danger. YOU as in the very essence of who you are. You are under attack. Defend yourself by getting as far away as fast as possible. Before you are lost forever to his evil.

*supposed to love not about to

For the record, no, you're not the abuser.

But really, move on. Relationships should be fun and easy in the early days. If they're not, then move on now.

You know you need to end this, right?

I mean if he thinks you're so awful, why doesn't he end it? That's the logical thing to do.

Same goes for you. Get out now and have a look into what made you stay with him as long as you did.

Just leave him to it, he obviously doesn't want a committed relationship, so don't stick around. You haven't done anything wrong, could you of got confused about being exclusive at first?

Get rid asap! He sounds like complete loser!

He's clearly a vile manipulator

Why are you with him? Be honest here. Does he make you feel good about yourself? Does he make you smile as you walk around? Does he make you cry with laughter over a silly TV programme or comment?

Its not even been a year and you are nearly broken. Please get out while you can find the strength

Narcissistic manipulator who gets off on controlling you. No amount of explaining or analysing or understanding him Get rid and do better.

Whoops! Sent to soon. In short, he's toxic and gets off on messing with your head. This is who he is. Get rid of him.

Why you clinging on to some bloke who doesn’t really like you and cheats on you?

If you don't live together he's easier to get rid of, ignore him

Dump.