Why am I feeling like the "abuser"?

[itsjustalittlecrushh]

I started seeing someone in April last year.
It's been up and down to say the least.
He moved the goal posts daily to accommodate his changing behaviour.
We were together but when he decided to text other women and sleep with them ...he decided we weren't together and not official (obviously so he wasn't the bad guy)
He twists everything and makes me feel like I'm crazy.
He will repeatedly make me jealous and if I say anything he will throw in my face "your being crazy " "are you starting with the crazy messages again"
When I'm not crazy -I'm just reacting to the way he is being with me.
He gives me the silent treatment if I ask too many questions-but I just want to know where I stand,they are just normal questions asking for clarity.
Now he says he's sick of my "abusive"

I look in the mirror and hate myself and wonder am I abusive
I'm not -I wouldn't hurt anybody
There's one day I think we are together and he's interested then he tells me about a woman who can't stop messaging him and he will smirk.
I said to him well she can have you then-and I asked how he met her and he then switched it around saying "are you going to go crazy again"
I'm fed up

Obviously you're not the abuser. He's a manipulative gaslighter and a twat. Why don't you just dump him? He won't change.

Love that movie

Please get rid.
Someone like that will only get worse, never better, so if you are unhappy now, bear in mind you will end up a lot more unhappy in the future if you put up with his behaviour. Don't waste any more of your life on him!

Send him the telephone number of a local psychiatrist and then block him. What an abusive twat.

Why are you feeling like the abuser? Because you are. But not in the way you mean.

You’re not abusing him - you’re abusing yourself, your dignity, your morals, your pride, your ego, your self-respect.

By staying with him.

Anyone who smirks when they’re saying hurtful things is bad to the core – it means they know what they’re saying and they’re saying it on purpose with the intention of upsetting you, manipulating you and seeing how far they can push you before you crack. Bad to the core.

Gas lighting.
He is behaving atrociously and deflecting it by blaming you.

Why on earth are you with him? Dump and run.

You'll fix this by texting him the following; (top tip: just cut and paste)

"Hi, do not try to contact me again by any means. We are through."

Block. Ta daaahhhh

Gaslighting, distortion, manipulation take your pick. Toxic people twist the narrative to suit their own agenda that is one of the things that makes them toxic.

X 100 million 👏👏👏

You’re less than a year into the relationship, end it. This is not going to get better, only worse.

He's the abusive one. And you need to act and split up with him properly.

What's holding you back?

Why haven't you dumped him already? Do you have no self respect?

It's not even been a year.

He is behaving like this because you're letting him. Stop letting him.

Take back control of your life and ditch that man!

He does not spark joy does he??? Take the Marie Kindo route and get shot of his waste of space arse!

Raise your bar.

Being single isn't a disease.

Being with a man who cheats, lies and wrecks your confidence isn't better than being single.