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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 12:57

Single (well lives alone) guy moved across the road last year & I'm kind of drawn to him but don't want to make an idiot of myself incase he's not actually single - I put a Christmas card through his door from me, my daughter & dog & he posted one back through ours, quite a nice one, didn't look like pack one. What can I do to find out if single or get him to notice me??

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 09/01/2023 13:00

Talk to him. Ask him how he finds the area, where he lived before and so on. That kind of conversation usually brings out mention of any partner.

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 13:04

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 09/01/2023 13:00

Talk to him. Ask him how he finds the area, where he lived before and so on. That kind of conversation usually brings out mention of any partner.

It's a quiet little cul de sac & I keep trying to accidentally bump in to him but so far to no avail- will keep trying though & use your topic suggestions, thank you x

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Suzi888 · 09/01/2023 13:06

You should’ve gone around with a bottle of wine when he moved in! Bit late now. Could a parcel be sent there by accident lol

MisguidedGhosts · 09/01/2023 13:08

Wait until the coronation and organise a street party.

Or knock his door and say you're considering starting up a neighbourhood watch and were canvassing to see it neighbours think it's a good idea. Then invite him to a neighbourhood watch 'meeting' Grin

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 13:10

Suzi888 · 09/01/2023 13:06

You should’ve gone around with a bottle of wine when he moved in! Bit late now. Could a parcel be sent there by accident lol

When he moved in a guy helped him & I wasn't sure if they were a couple both moving in & I was more nosey then than attracted lol he must work from home & half flexi time somewhere as he's not in & out regular times so he's hard to bump in to - I might go & put one of my own post through his door so he has to bring back lol thanks for tips anyway x

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 09/01/2023 13:11

alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 13:04

It's a quiet little cul de sac & I keep trying to accidentally bump in to him but so far to no avail- will keep trying though & use your topic suggestions, thank you x

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Is there anything you could ask him to lend you - e.g. DIY tools - tape measure, spirit level, hammer, cross-head screw-driver? Even if he doesn't have the thing you ask for, it would be a chance to start a conversation

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 13:11

MisguidedGhosts · 09/01/2023 13:08

Wait until the coronation and organise a street party.

Or knock his door and say you're considering starting up a neighbourhood watch and were canvassing to see it neighbours think it's a good idea. Then invite him to a neighbourhood watch 'meeting' Grin

Lol omg brilliant ideas, you're obviously a pro! X

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 13:16

@PlaitBilledDuckyPuss actually we both drive VWs so I could ask him a car question x

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 09/01/2023 13:18

alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 13:16

@PlaitBilledDuckyPuss actually we both drive VWs so I could ask him a car question x

Ask him if he knows how to change the time on the clock.

He might be the only person in the known universe who doesn't spend half the year with their car clock an hour out!

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 13:20

@PlaitBilledDuckyPuss genius! X

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Notaboutthebass · 09/01/2023 14:18

Who did he say it was from...just his name?

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 14:20

Notaboutthebass · 09/01/2023 14:18

Who did he say it was from...just his name?

Yes just his name but I thought he might have a girlfriend that doesn't live with him so didn't put her on the card?? X

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Notaboutthebass · 09/01/2023 19:14

Sounds promising! Not many men would post a Christmas card through.

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 19:34

@Notaboutthebass I know right lol 🤞🏻 x

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Notaboutthebass · 09/01/2023 19:35

Ask him for a drink!

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 19:42

Notaboutthebass · 09/01/2023 19:35

Ask him for a drink!

@Notaboutthebass one minute his car's there then it's gone, hard to bump into him, especially winter as dark early but I'll try x

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Notaboutthebass · 09/01/2023 19:47

How exciting!

bitoffrostbitethere · 09/01/2023 19:49

The street party idea is pretty good actually. We've done a couple of street parties and the planning meetings involved lots of alcohol and getting to know people. You will have to follow through with the street party if he turns out not to be single though 😅

DomesticShortHair · 09/01/2023 19:50

Any chance you could start a parking dispute with him? Not only would you then have a reason to engage, but MN would get both a new thread out of it, and a diagram.

Win-win.

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 19:53

bitoffrostbitethere · 09/01/2023 19:49

The street party idea is pretty good actually. We've done a couple of street parties and the planning meetings involved lots of alcohol and getting to know people. You will have to follow through with the street party if he turns out not to be single though 😅

Lol you guys are all great, I'll keep you posted x

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PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 09/01/2023 19:55

bitoffrostbitethere · 09/01/2023 19:49

The street party idea is pretty good actually. We've done a couple of street parties and the planning meetings involved lots of alcohol and getting to know people. You will have to follow through with the street party if he turns out not to be single though 😅

Get the neighbourhood involved and some keen type will take over and organise it soon enough.

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 19:57

DomesticShortHair · 09/01/2023 19:50

Any chance you could start a parking dispute with him? Not only would you then have a reason to engage, but MN would get both a new thread out of it, and a diagram.

Win-win.

We both have driveways, but good idea x

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Zanatdy · 09/01/2023 21:04

If it was a nice card not a packet one and signed just from him, I reckon he’s interested. I’ve just started dating an ex colleague and we flirted for 3 bloody years before getting it on! I mean there was a pandemic in the way but we both wish we had made a move much sooner. But oh well, we finally did!

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alabama1972 · 09/01/2023 21:22

Zanatdy · 09/01/2023 21:04

If it was a nice card not a packet one and signed just from him, I reckon he’s interested. I’ve just started dating an ex colleague and we flirted for 3 bloody years before getting it on! I mean there was a pandemic in the way but we both wish we had made a move much sooner. But oh well, we finally did!

I love a success story, you're giving me hope x

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HappyNewYear2023 · 09/01/2023 21:31

I'd ask him about changing the clock in my car, that's a great one!!