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My ex sent me a Facebook request

45 replies

Odunayo · 09/01/2023 07:09

Í really need a suggestion as it appears that I am clustered. Myself and my partner(now ex) had a fallout a few months back and all efforts to gut us back proves abortive as he kept on promising to reach out but never does. It was a long-distance relationship and when I had the time to visit his location, I called him to know if he is open for a discussion but he told me he had some meetings at the time(I believed he lied). Days afterwards, he blocked me on all social platforms.

A few days back, I saw that he sent me a friend request on Facebook and observed that he unblocked me on his WhatsApp status, probably just to see a status of his which read; "life is short to be unhappy, find me now because am your happiness"

I've determined not to be the first person to reach out to him, but I do not trust myself as I still have feelings for him.

But I really want to have an idea of his intent and I would appreciate useful suggestions on how to jeep my sanity.

OP posts:
KangarooKenny · 09/01/2023 07:11

He’s playing you like a banjo. Block him and move on.

MyCatIsAFuckwit · 09/01/2023 07:11

Decline request
Block
Simples

CleopatrasBeautifulNose · 09/01/2023 07:14

Agree with @KangarooKenny and @MyCatIsAFuckwit
His game is a big pile of steaming nonsense
Distract yourself until your feelings wear off

XmasElf10 · 09/01/2023 07:21

Never ever play games… nothing, ABSOLUTELY nothing good ever came of playing stupid shit like this. Block him, ignore him, go do something more likely to make you happy (literally anything!!)

GreyCarpet · 09/01/2023 07:26

Yeah, ignore the request and as for not trusting yourself, seriously? You are the only person in control of you and what you do.

It's up to you, ultimately, but you'd be a fool to play his games.

GreyCarpet · 09/01/2023 07:27

I can't believe anyone would need help with this tbh.

I'd have blocked him already. I wouldn't even have given it enough thought to think of starting a thread about it. It's not rocket science.

ShandaLear · 09/01/2023 07:34

Well he sounds like a twat and he’s reeling you in like a fish. Block and vice on. Life is too short to be unhappy. Find someone else who isn’t a twat.

ShandaLear · 09/01/2023 07:34

Move not vice 😜

pristinesurfacesGBTD · 09/01/2023 07:35

He's pathetic

DelphiniumBlue · 09/01/2023 07:38

He sounds horrible and you are turning a blind eye. Keep your dignity and self respect and delete the request. Don’t contact him. Don’t respond. He may try harder if you ignore but don’t give in.

Underminer · 09/01/2023 07:39

Never enter into a mind game with a fool. You’ll waste your time and come off worse.

He probably wants a shag and you’re convenient. The relationship is beyond repair. Move on and upwards.

Xrays · 09/01/2023 07:41

If you were really meant for each other you wouldn’t have broken up in the first place. Block him. Move on.

piedbeauty · 09/01/2023 07:46

Urgh, I hate stupid shit like this. Block him and move on.

SeasonalDependency · 09/01/2023 07:49

Ignore him, don't respond and move on with your life. You can do better.

tribpot · 09/01/2023 07:53

If it helps, OP, this guy quite clearly is not your happiness. And franking anyone who updates their WhatsApp status to 'I am your happiness' is a wanker of the highest order. Talk about passive-aggressive game playing. Block.

WhenIAmOldIShallWearPurple · 09/01/2023 08:03

Is he 13?

Honestly OP, block and move on. Do you really need this man child in your life?

girlmom21 · 09/01/2023 08:05

Block him so he can't play his games. Do this on your terms.

figmaofmyimagination · 09/01/2023 08:22

He’s probably been shagging someone else and it’s fizzled out so he’s seeing if he can reel you back in.

PerpetualFailure · 09/01/2023 08:28

He missed his chance. Raise your standards. Your are worth more than this.

RenovationsUnderway · 09/01/2023 08:29

He might be looking for no-strings sex from you, as his supply has dried up from elsewhere

Ofcourseshecan · 09/01/2023 08:39

PerpetualFailure · 09/01/2023 08:28

He missed his chance. Raise your standards. Your are worth more than this.

Exactly this. So disrespectful. Don’t let him play you like this. You may be missing him, and it hurts. But letting him back into your life would hurt a lot more, and for longer.

I wish you better luck soon.

DavidTees · 09/01/2023 08:45

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IncompleteSenten · 09/01/2023 08:46

You're an ego boost.

No matter how shitty he is to you, he only needs to throw you a crumb and you'll come lay at his feet.

Move on.

SuperHandss · 09/01/2023 08:49

He’s bored & loves the drama.

Hiddenvoice · 09/01/2023 08:49

He just wants to see if he can get you back. If he truly cared then he’d try to properly message you and chat.
just ignore the request, delete his number and move
on!