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My ex sent me a Facebook request

45 replies

Odunayo · 09/01/2023 07:09

Í really need a suggestion as it appears that I am clustered. Myself and my partner(now ex) had a fallout a few months back and all efforts to gut us back proves abortive as he kept on promising to reach out but never does. It was a long-distance relationship and when I had the time to visit his location, I called him to know if he is open for a discussion but he told me he had some meetings at the time(I believed he lied). Days afterwards, he blocked me on all social platforms.

A few days back, I saw that he sent me a friend request on Facebook and observed that he unblocked me on his WhatsApp status, probably just to see a status of his which read; "life is short to be unhappy, find me now because am your happiness"

I've determined not to be the first person to reach out to him, but I do not trust myself as I still have feelings for him.

But I really want to have an idea of his intent and I would appreciate useful suggestions on how to jeep my sanity.

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HaddawayAndShite · 09/01/2023 08:51

he unblocked me on his WhatsApp status, probably just to see a status of his which read; "life is short to be unhappy, find me now because am your happiness"

This reminds of being a 13 year old on MSN and adding song lyrics into your name and signing in and out the person would see them.

What a fucking cringe, how do you even still have feelings after that?

Oldfox · 09/01/2023 08:55

Play a stupid game (his) win a stupid prize (him)

mindutopia · 09/01/2023 11:15

God, he sounds like my mum - tiresome! She deleted me from Facebook, sends all kinds of crazy messages and things in the post to me, but then will share all sorts of public memes about how daughters are a blessing, blah, blah, blah. But I see right through it.

Some people like to discard and then play the victim and reel you back in to make themselves not feel so insecure and to boost their egos. It's a game and not a healthy one for you. Just block and ignore.

Original poster
Odunayo · 09/01/2023 16:56

Thanks

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Odunayo · 09/01/2023 16:58

Oh, sorry about your experience with her and thanks for your suggestions.

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 03:13

Ofcourseshecan · 09/01/2023 08:39

Exactly this. So disrespectful. Don’t let him play you like this. You may be missing him, and it hurts. But letting him back into your life would hurt a lot more, and for longer.

I wish you better luck soon.

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@Ofcourseshecan @PerpetualFailure Thanks.

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 03:15

KangarooKenny · 09/01/2023 07:11

He’s playing you like a banjo. Block him and move on.

@KangarooKenny Thanks

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 03:17

GreyCarpet · 09/01/2023 07:26

Yeah, ignore the request and as for not trusting yourself, seriously? You are the only person in control of you and what you do.

It's up to you, ultimately, but you'd be a fool to play his games.

Thank You.

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 03:17

XmasElf10 · 09/01/2023 07:21

Never ever play games… nothing, ABSOLUTELY nothing good ever came of playing stupid shit like this. Block him, ignore him, go do something more likely to make you happy (literally anything!!)

Alright, thanks

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Guavafish1 · 10/01/2023 03:18

Unnecessary drama...

Please block this man, that was no way to treat a partner. Plus he will do it again.

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 03:19

Guavafish1 · 10/01/2023 03:18

Unnecessary drama...

Please block this man, that was no way to treat a partner. Plus he will do it again.

Thanks

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 03:21

ShandaLear · 09/01/2023 07:34

Well he sounds like a twat and he’s reeling you in like a fish. Block and vice on. Life is too short to be unhappy. Find someone else who isn’t a twat.

Thanks

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 03:21

DelphiniumBlue · 09/01/2023 07:38

He sounds horrible and you are turning a blind eye. Keep your dignity and self respect and delete the request. Don’t contact him. Don’t respond. He may try harder if you ignore but don’t give in.

Thanks

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 12:28

WhenIAmOldIShallWearPurple · 09/01/2023 08:03

Is he 13?

Honestly OP, block and move on. Do you really need this man child in your life?

Thanks.

He will be 33 March.

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Odunayo · 10/01/2023 12:28

WhenIAmOldIShallWearPurple · 09/01/2023 08:03

Is he 13?

Honestly OP, block and move on. Do you really need this man child in your life?

Thanks.

He will be 33 March.

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WatieKatie · 10/01/2023 17:06

Why on earth would you even consider being in touch with this loser again? Block and thank your lucky stars that it’s over.

SliceoQuiche · 10/01/2023 17:08

I thought cryptic status updates died with MSN messenger in the early 2000’s.. anyway…
agree with PP’s - delete, block, move on.

Pinkbonbon · 10/01/2023 19:16

Eww. He sounds like a right narcissistic, smug fucker.

Just block him
Make the choice for yourself.
Because he he's only ever going to choose himself. Take a leaf out of his book.

Bertha21 · 10/01/2023 19:20

Please block he will try and reel you back in then block again. Take the upper hand.

Pinkbonbon · 10/01/2023 19:21

Actually I'd be petty and update my status with:

'what a brilliant day to be (and remain) single. Freeeeeedom!!!'.

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