Is he playing mine games?

[blondskeepclosed]

My ex is a gas lighter
Nothing is ever his fault
I'm always to blame
We split up and after I found out something bad he did and asked for reasons -he blocked me on WhatsApp.
He didn't block me anywhere else
I removed him off Facebook/Instagram etc

2 months passed and I sent him a message on messenger saying it shouldn't of ended so bad
I just needed closure .
He sent me a really long message saying
I was the one in the wrong and he chose not to block me on Facebook /Instagram -and if he really wanted too ,didn't I think he would of
What did he mean by that?
He said "I bet your regretting your decisions now"
Then he sent me a few texts a few days after of our favourite song saying "well least you found the band and good music from our relationship "
I don't understand him

Just block and ignore him.

Mind* games

Block, ignore, move on

*mind games (sorry typo )

Anyone else any ideas ?

If you've no reason to be in touch ie kids, house, block and move on. Don't waste your time and energy overthinking.

You said it yourself - he gaslights you, blames everything on you and takes no responsibility for his own actions. What closure could such a person
possibly give you? He has no insight into his own behaviour and no remorse.

By contacting him, you invited him to fuck with you some more. That was a mistake - don’t compound it by giving him another moment’s thought.

Block him, and find some ways to rebuild your self-esteem.

What ideas do you want? No one is going to say - yes try and get back with him.

Block. Move on.

Block, and be thankful that this knob is no longer in your life.

If I'm reading it right, you're the one who got back in touch with him after 2 months? You're playing games with each other in that case.

You've popped up out of nowhere and he's perhaps got the sniff of a possible shag so is going after it.

Block him and move on, closure comes with time, not getting back in touch.

I just didn't understand why he didn't block me everywhere and why he actually said if he had really wanted too -don't I think he would of

He didn't block you everywhere because he wanted to give you the chance to come crawling back to him.

Of course he's playing games.

Unfortunately, by contacting him again after two months, you have shown him that you are willing to participate in these games. You will never get closure with a man like this, because in his eyes it will always be your fault.

He’s just a jerk. That’s all, no mystery. He blocked you on WhatsApp to make an impact but left you on other social media so he could watch you spiral/contact you if he wanted sex/whatever.

He’s a twat. Nothing more to see, give yourself time to detach emotionally and then it’ll just be a part of the past you’ve learned lessons from.

Seriously, why do you care. Sounds like you want him back.

I agree with all PPs. Block, never contact him again, be thankful that he isn't in your life and you no longer need to give him one nanosecond of rent free space in your head. Closure comes from within ourselves - he's unlikely to provide you with that.

Never mind what he thinks, says and does.

He's a tosser and you're well shot of him.

Well he's got you where he wants: he's moving on with his life and your life is still filled with thinking about him and why he does that.

The only healthy thing to do is move on from him.

Why are you wondering about what he's thinking? Just be grateful that he's no longer in your life.

It reads as though you're hoping there was part of him that wanted to get back together with you. If that is correct, then I beg you - don't even consider it. Even if he wanted to get back together with you, why would you do that? You know he's abusive and a bad partner.

But, it's much much MUCH more likely that he's just playing with you for fun, to see how far he can push you before he discards you again. Or he wouldn't say no to a quick sh*g (from anyone) and thinks he might get one from you.

Stop trying to find reasons from the mind of someone who isn't reasonable. There lies madness. And a complete waste of your valuable time.

He's just messing. Ignore. You're better than this.

Block him. It's all very well saying that he's playing mind games - but people can't play on their own. Don't engage.

Let him play Solitaire...

Battleships?

Just sink him.

People like this need the attention. They want feedback from you. If you stop engaging, he will simply move on to his next target. Block him on everything and get on with your life.

He enjoys the fact that he still has your headspace. You are a game to him.
You don’t need to understand him, you need to block him

You'd be better off spending your time wondering why you are analyzing his actions. Do you want him back? If not move on. <--- This is what you should do. If you do wanthim back, the next thing you should ask yourself is why your standards for relationships are so low that you want someone who mistreats you, and then work on that and aim for healthier relationships in the future.

His actions are simple. He does what he does because he's either abusive/likes maintaining control or he's just a jerk keeping his options open with you to have a possible shag. He doesn't care about you evident by how you've already been treated by him. You were probably hoping to hear that he said what he said because he cares for you but he doesn't. Don't try and convince yourself that is the case. You can give yourself closure by having this realization and move forward making better decisions for you future relationships.

If you need closure, then it is in your hands. Do it yourself and don't waste any more headspace in wondering why he was such an arsehole. Block him on everything, and good riddance to bad rubbish.

I do still have feelings for him
I would be lying if I said I didn't
I just don't know why he does the things he does