Page 3 | Friend’s dp kept trying to smack her bottom (lighthearted)

Tiltymubha · 2023-01-05T19:11:47+00:00

Overhead friend and her new dp messing about in the next room, I am staying with them for a long weekend. She kept refusing to get up and leave the sofa as she was too tired and be threatened to give her a smacked bottom if she didn’t get ready. She was giggling and it was obviously lighthearted. But I can’t help but feel the ick a bit albeit second hand!! I know it’s not my relationship. Am I being too much of a prude?

DesertIslandCondiment · 06/01/2023 15:52

An adult hearing her adult friend's adult partner making a little naughty joke and having a laugh should not really bat an eyelid.

SaintLoy · 06/01/2023 15:59

AlwaysGinPlease · 05/01/2023 20:14

Agreed. Op it's weird that you're even posting about it.

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Likewise agreed.

Lookingoutside · 06/01/2023 16:16

‘Do you really think saying 'move or I'll smack your bum' is good foreplay?’

@girlmom21

None of your business.

I was pointing out that you shouldn’t make sweeping statements about what makes something good or bad. People are different.

You’re entitled to your likes and dislikes, others are entitled to theirs. You sound repressed and yet over excited.

SaintLoy · 06/01/2023 16:17

girlmom21 · 06/01/2023 11:38

Do you really think saying 'move or I'll smack your bum' is good foreplay?

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It would certainly get me all fruity.

BraveGoldie · 06/01/2023 17:12

Never heard of the bratty sub dynamic OP?

Or maybe just silliness...

Either way, you are intruding and over worrying!

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Tiltymubha · 06/01/2023 17:23

Ok consider me educated…

this is a legit thread, I really am that naive…

@SaintLoy are you being serious?

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SaintLoy · 06/01/2023 18:22

Tiltymubha · 06/01/2023 17:23

Ok consider me educated…

this is a legit thread, I really am that naive…

@SaintLoy are you being serious?

Semi-serious. I know it can be tricky for some people to assimilate the notion that sex can be an opportunity to have fun, and be - shall I say - be light-hearted? Of course this is sex-eavesdropping at third hand.

DesertIslandCondiment · 06/01/2023 20:33

SaintLoy · 06/01/2023 18:22

Semi-serious. I know it can be tricky for some people to assimilate the notion that sex can be an opportunity to have fun, and be - shall I say - be light-hearted? Of course this is sex-eavesdropping at third hand.

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I'm still not sure OP is being serious but I agree with you.

Emmamoo89 · 06/01/2023 20:37

Tiltymubha · 05/01/2023 20:05

Sorry! Can see I’m being out of order. I just thought it was a bit odd, the kind of thing you would say to a naughty child, but appreciate it was a joke. I was going to check she was ok and didn’t feel controlled!!

Nothing wrong with a bit of spanking

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 20:38

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 15:52

You might think it's weird. You're not the authority on what's odd and what's not though, so that's just your own opinion. For a lot of couples, it would be completely normal.

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I’m the authority on it being weird to initiate sexual roleplay when your guest is sitting in the next room. That is weird. Unless you sit happily in friends’ homes listening to their boyfriend threatening to smack their bottom because they’re refusing to get up? Because I can guarantee you don’t… because it’s weird.

DesertIslandCondiment · 06/01/2023 21:19

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 20:38

I’m the authority on it being weird to initiate sexual roleplay when your guest is sitting in the next room. That is weird. Unless you sit happily in friends’ homes listening to their boyfriend threatening to smack their bottom because they’re refusing to get up? Because I can guarantee you don’t… because it’s weird.

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It is not weird. I've heard my friends make silly sexual jokes to each other. FFS, I can't believe how some people live.

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 22:05

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 20:38

I’m the authority on it being weird to initiate sexual roleplay when your guest is sitting in the next room. That is weird. Unless you sit happily in friends’ homes listening to their boyfriend threatening to smack their bottom because they’re refusing to get up? Because I can guarantee you don’t… because it’s weird.

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Haha you definitely can't guarantee that. I've had friends show me the hooks they use to hang each other off during a dinner party.

We're not all square. There's a whole world out there that would shock you sideways.

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 22:06

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 22:05

Haha you definitely can't guarantee that. I've had friends show me the hooks they use to hang each other off during a dinner party.

We're not all square. There's a whole world out there that would shock you sideways.

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Now wanting to see your friend’s sex hooks or hear them initiate spanking roleplay doesn’t make you ‘square.’ It’s just normal behaviour.

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 22:27

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 22:06

Now wanting to see your friend’s sex hooks or hear them initiate spanking roleplay doesn’t make you ‘square.’ It’s just normal behaviour.

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Thinking that no one on earth engages in kinky behaviour or tells their friends about it or is ever overheard sounds pretty square to me

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 22:33

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 22:27

Thinking that no one on earth engages in kinky behaviour or tells their friends about it or is ever overheard sounds pretty square to me

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Hmm, except that’s just not what I’ve said at all, is it? I presume you’ve exaggerated to try to cloud the fact that you think I’m a square because I don’t want to overhear other people’s sexual behaviours. I didn’t say nobody ever engages in kinky behaviour or talks about sex to friends. I said it’s unusual and uncomfortable behaviour to start trying to initiate roleplay with your partner when your friend/guest is sitting there in the next room. And I don’t think objecting to hearing other people’s cringey roleplay makes you a ‘square.’

Divebar2021 · 06/01/2023 22:48

I don’t even think it was fore play or role play. It just sounds like a silly joke.

seagulldown · 06/01/2023 23:10

Pl

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 06/01/2023 23:20

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 22:33

Hmm, except that’s just not what I’ve said at all, is it? I presume you’ve exaggerated to try to cloud the fact that you think I’m a square because I don’t want to overhear other people’s sexual behaviours. I didn’t say nobody ever engages in kinky behaviour or talks about sex to friends. I said it’s unusual and uncomfortable behaviour to start trying to initiate roleplay with your partner when your friend/guest is sitting there in the next room. And I don’t think objecting to hearing other people’s cringey roleplay makes you a ‘square.’

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Tbf "in the next room" could mean OP had gone to bed or had taken herself away for a long period of time and they weren't aware she could hear them/was awake. Stop being so judgemental. OP was eaves dropping on a couple having a tiny wee dirty joke and has decided her mate is being controlled by her partner.

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 23:31

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 22:33

Hmm, except that’s just not what I’ve said at all, is it? I presume you’ve exaggerated to try to cloud the fact that you think I’m a square because I don’t want to overhear other people’s sexual behaviours. I didn’t say nobody ever engages in kinky behaviour or talks about sex to friends. I said it’s unusual and uncomfortable behaviour to start trying to initiate roleplay with your partner when your friend/guest is sitting there in the next room. And I don’t think objecting to hearing other people’s cringey roleplay makes you a ‘square.’

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You said I definitively wouldn't have happily overheard one of my friends doing it and I have disabused you of that idea. I've sat and happily heard a lot more than that and it doesn't bother me in the slightest because I don't think someone offering to give their partner a smacked bum is even that kinky.

And yeah, I do think people are a bit square if they would get in so much of a tizz about it that they can't even conceive that other people wouldn't be bothered.

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 23:43

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 06/01/2023 23:20

Tbf "in the next room" could mean OP had gone to bed or had taken herself away for a long period of time and they weren't aware she could hear them/was awake. Stop being so judgemental. OP was eaves dropping on a couple having a tiny wee dirty joke and has decided her mate is being controlled by her partner.

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Unless she was sitting with her ear pressed against the door she wasn’t eavesdropping. She overheard. Because it was being done relatively close to her.

SunflowerTed · 06/01/2023 23:46

girlmom21 · 05/01/2023 19:40

Your reaction is much weirder than their behaviour.

Totally agree. Rather creepy

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 23:47

Kanaloa · 06/01/2023 23:43

Unless she was sitting with her ear pressed against the door she wasn’t eavesdropping. She overheard. Because it was being done relatively close to her.

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So what? Would it really disturb you that much to overhear your friend having fun with their boyfriend?

Kanaloa · 07/01/2023 01:25

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 06/01/2023 23:47

So what? Would it really disturb you that much to overhear your friend having fun with their boyfriend?

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Yeah, it would. I’m not really into hearing my friends giggling about refusing to leave the sofa and their boyfriends threatening to smack their bottom. It would just make me think what a cringe fest.

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Tiltymubha · 07/01/2023 17:02

Enlightening comments here, thanks all 😂🤯

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supercali77 · 08/01/2023 15:01

@Kanaloa Seriously it isn't sexual role play, the guy hardly had his paddle out in the living room ready for a spanking session. It was flirty banter, that OP overheard and took the wrong way.