I shouldn't have dumped her for being "crazy" should I?

[wallynit]

Three years ago I was dating a woman.
Fancied her like crazy and we got on so well.
We were basically in a relationship.
My friend used to be friends with her and started putting doubts in my head.
Saying she was crazy,I was being silly and she was like my ex and would make my life a misery.
She couldn't hold a relationship because of her behaviour etc
So I backed off without explaining and she started texting a lot asking for reasons and that At the time confirmed what my friend was saying.
So I didn't exactly end it well and blocked her on WhatsApp.
We have mutual friends and she got into a relationship 2 years ago and they are still together.
They look happy and I've seen through mutual friends they go on holidays /live together etc
So it's making me question if what friend said was true.
Why am I feeling this way ?

You’re 40 ?! I honestly thought you were a teenager 😳

And I still stand by this!

Although I wonder how genuine OP is? Nobody surely can be this obtuse.

As a PP said, learning from our mistakes is uncomfortable. But it's a really valuable part of life.

You may have made a bad decision about this relationship, but you can't reverse it now, so just keep moving forward with your life.

It certainly sounds as though you handled the breakup badly and could have been more considerate and respectful toward the other woman, so lesson learnt on that hopefully.

Do you feel you have a pattern of letting yourself be influenced by friends, rather than feeling confident about making your own decisions? Or do you feel it was a one-off?

This is a forty year old woman posting?

If you think that's bad - my ex that I mentioned upthread was in her fifties!