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Original poster

What to do with my engagement ring? Divorced.

64 replies

newyearnewlife2023 · 01/01/2023 11:40

A new year and a new mind set. I've been divorced for 5 years yet held onto my engagement ring and sometimes wore it on the other hand. I now realize it was part of me not letting go after the shock of my husband leaving me.
What did you do with your ring once you got divorced?

OP posts:
Mels101 · 01/01/2023 11:44

Haven't done it yet but plan to try and sell it then buy a nice ring I want to wear.
I thought about keeping it for my DDs but then thought would they want a ring from their parents' failed marriage? They can have the nice replacement I get instead.

BuddhaAtSea · 01/01/2023 11:45

I sold mine, but it wasn’t worth anything. If you have a nice diamond, re set it, I would.

terriblyangryattimes · 01/01/2023 11:45

Sell or exchange it at a jewellers for something you love, or for cash. Or pass to a daughter or grandchild if you have one?

Original poster
newyearnewlife2023 · 01/01/2023 11:46

I did think about saving it for my daughter but yes, a failed marriage doesn't make the ring very special !

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Marblessolveeverything · 01/01/2023 11:54

How about reframing it, the ring is a symbol of when you were happy and went on to have your daughter.

What happened later doesn't have to taint the diamond and it's original origin. I would have it reset into a piece for my daughter as a symbol that out of what can fail and hurt can also bring great joy but I am a glass half full type.

Robin233 · 01/01/2023 13:26

I was saving them for my dd once she reached 30 - an age she would appreciate them.
Anyway at age 24 -25 she asked for them earlier , and I was happy to oblige.
I hope she treasures them.
Our divorce had nothing to do with her.
And the marriage wasn't all bad.

BanjoVio · 01/01/2023 13:26

Sold mine for £800 and booked a cruise 😁😁

Anotheryearsameshitshow · 01/01/2023 13:27

Sold mine and me and bff had a great night out!

Mydogisweird · 01/01/2023 13:30

I sold mine and took the kids on a holiday we wouldn’t have been able to afford otherwise.

Namrchangedforthis · 01/01/2023 13:31

Saving mine for my daughter

dizzygirl1 · 01/01/2023 13:34

Would sell it but it won't be worth anything 🤣 it's just sat with my jewellery

SamTG · 01/01/2023 13:40

I took mine to an independent jeweller with my daughter- she chose how she wanted it re-cast/designed for her 18th birthday.

BanjoVio · 01/01/2023 14:10

dizzygirl1 · 01/01/2023 13:34

Would sell it but it won't be worth anything 🤣 it's just sat with my jewellery

This is the same for my first wedding ring. Worth nothing as second hand jewellers already have tonnes like it, so it’s just sat there with everything else. It’s quite pretty really but I’d feel weird wearing it.

Warspite · 01/01/2023 14:14

Marblessolveeverything
This lady has a lovely idea.

It’s what I’d do.
Something to treasure from happier days.

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 01/01/2023 14:14

Mels101 · 01/01/2023 11:44

Haven't done it yet but plan to try and sell it then buy a nice ring I want to wear.
I thought about keeping it for my DDs but then thought would they want a ring from their parents' failed marriage? They can have the nice replacement I get instead.

I always thought it odd that Kate Middleton accepted a ring from a failure of a marriage.

Frostine · 01/01/2023 14:16

Gave mine to daughter and she lost it !

sweatervest · 01/01/2023 14:20

i lost the one from the first marriage and pawned the one from the second.
i have zero regrets about both. i got 5% of the value when i pawned it but it was a total joy to get rid of it.

SparklyStone · 01/01/2023 14:21

I took the stone and put it in a necklace (my ex husband had had an affair, but I loved the stone)

Eatentoomanyroses · 01/01/2023 14:21

I sold it and put the money towards a new fitted kitchen

betrayedandwobbly · 01/01/2023 14:22

Keeping for DD

Her DDad might have been an unfaithful shite, but when the DC were born, I believed in him and in us, and I want her to know that despite everything that went wrong she came in to the world at a time I believed we were happy and that there was love

orbitalcrisis · 01/01/2023 14:46

My parents are divorced and I was rather upset my mother sold her ring. Their marriage may not have lasted forever but produced us children which I hoped was a positive. That and it was a family heirloom! She really had no right.

onmywayamarillo · 01/01/2023 14:50

I'm keeping it for when either of my sons decide to get hitched as it's a very nice ring.

Alexandernevermind · 01/01/2023 14:50

I think give it to your daughter. Resell value for rings is often disappointing as you will often just get scrap value for the stones and metal.

Splonker · 01/01/2023 14:55

orbitalcrisis · 01/01/2023 14:46

My parents are divorced and I was rather upset my mother sold her ring. Their marriage may not have lasted forever but produced us children which I hoped was a positive. That and it was a family heirloom! She really had no right.

She really had no right? It was her ring! She had every right.

Splonker · 01/01/2023 14:56

I take that back, I just saw the word heirloom, missed that first time. sorry

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