What to do with my engagement ring? Divorced.

[newyearnewlife2023]

A new year and a new mind set. I've been divorced for 5 years yet held onto my engagement ring and sometimes wore it on the other hand. I now realize it was part of me not letting go after the shock of my husband leaving me.
What did you do with your ring once you got divorced?

I need to sell mine. No idea how to go about it but I do have the certificates thank god.

Gave it to a charity, along with my wedding ring.

What an interesting thread. 90yo DM died a couple of months ago. She and my father had a VERY bitter divorce nearly forty years ago but she wore her wedding ring to the end. I have her solitaire diamond engagement ring - I like the idea of having it made into a necklace of some sort.

I had mine converted into a necklace. It may not have been a happy marriage, but to me it represented a part of my life when I was very happy and hopeful for the future. I don’t wear it often, but DH knows where it has come from and says he doesn’t mind - I did wonder if he might find it awkward.

I took it back to the jeweller where it came from, and said “I need this not to be a ring any more.” and let them take it from there with guidance about what my options were.

I love this! I'm going to do this. X

If it wasn't for the relationship (which clearly was good at some point) you wouldn't have the precious daughter. The ring is a symbol of where she came from and who she is. Save it for her, reset the stones if she prefers.

You're the hero we need!

I sold it and got a tattoo I love instead

I've thought about this as my husband and I aren't in the best of places at the moment. My ring new cost as much as a nice car, and it's very unique and beautiful. I would either save it and give it to my daughter as it is, or have the band taken off and the top setting and diamond kept exactly the way it is, but turned into a necklace that I could still wear because it is beautiful.

The ring belonged to your mum from the moment it was handed over, so technically she had every right.

This will always be a risk if you use family heirlooms for wedding and engagement rings, or give to someone outside of the direct family line. bless specified clearly then once handed over the ownership changes to that person - it's no longer belongs to the original family line I'm afraid.

I gave one engagement ring to charity.

My wedding ring I gave to my son… who lost it.

I went to a jewellers that takes second hand jewellery and had an estimate of £150 for both of them (wedding and engagement) I didn't have proof of address with me at the time so I couldn't sell them. I will do next time I am in the city and the money will go towards my son's wedding. My daughter has no interest in them, and I have already contributed towards her wedding!

@Abraxan As I said in another reply, yes, she was legal entitled to do this. She has to live with the consequences though and those are that she pissed off her children and showed them she doesn't think much of familial ties. But she got a few quid and that's what's important.

I had an expensive half carrat engagement ring, half carrat diamond on a chain necklace, 3 good bracelets, sapphire and diamond eternity ring, loads of pairs of gold earrings. I offered them to my DD but she said she did not want them. I suggested having diamond reset to her. In the end I split it all up and gave several nieces something and 2 great nieces as well. I threw my wedding ring into the sea from top of a cliff where he proposed to me. It felt good.