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A shit time for those alone...

29 replies

MoreShit123 · 31/12/2022 23:54

The fireworks. The celebrations. Everyone being happy. Fingers crossed. Let's this be it. Let it happen. For us 🤞

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EBearhug · 31/12/2022 23:56

Nah, it's great, had a lovely bath, now in my own bed... er, on MN.rather than actually reading the book that's beside me.

tallwivglasses · 01/01/2023 00:06

Yeah, noisy fireworks here. I've been listening to loud 70's music and making the nut roast I didn't get round to at Christmas. Grandchild asleep, all good. Happy new year OP, and to all us new year loners x

Outtasteamandluck · 01/01/2023 00:09

They're not happy. Just the fireworks for 10 minutes masks it.

In the morning, they'll wake up with hangovers and the same issues that they did yday.

It's easy when you're not happy to think everyone else is but they're not.

Let's commit to trying to make it a good year in whatever small way we can.

I'll start by working on my self esteem. Don't know how but I'll give it a go.

HNY OP.

YogaLite · 01/01/2023 00:14

Wished upon the Universe...

KnobbyKnobson · 01/01/2023 00:17

Why is it? I like being on my own. Nobody calling me a mardy bitch. Nobody calling me fat and ugly. Nobody getting drunk and belligerent. Nobody gambling away hundreds of pounds of our money days before Christmas. Nobody dragging me around the room by my hair or throwing things at me. Being alone ROCKS.

WarrickDavisAsPlates · 01/01/2023 00:18

I'm not single but I am very much alone. He's gone out to celebrate with his friends and left me with the kids.

Dd happened to be awake and watched some fireworks from my bedroom window with me.

Hopefully this year something will change and I will have a less lonely time.

lovechickencrisps · 01/01/2023 00:18

Better off alone than miserable

CAJIE · 01/01/2023 00:19

There is no universe at your back.Only reality.Make of it what u can and squeeze what you need from life bur dont assume a man or woman or whatever or perfect family is the answer to the question of what life is about.

PurpleButterflyWings · 01/01/2023 00:35

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foxlover47 · 01/01/2023 00:40

Me and the dogs and DD 10 and that's enough to make me
Happy
I hope you find a nice relationship if that's what you hope too and don't feel so alone next year , positive thinking ✨

foxlover47 · 01/01/2023 00:41

@WarrickDavisAsPlates that doesn't sound very nice of him
At all , I'm
Glad you got to see the fireworks with your DD though , I hope things change for the better for you in this new year too

Judelawsnanny · 01/01/2023 00:41

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Presume that emoji was a mistake?

frogface69 · 01/01/2023 00:53

It hasn't been a good year. So many bereavements, but it's to be expected at my age I suppose. I miss my DH. He loved watching the fireworks. Seeing them in person in London was in his bucket list but it wasn't meant to be. Wherever he is I hope there are fireworks.

Bellagi · 01/01/2023 00:53

Why do the options have to be extremely awful or just be single? Op just wants someone nice. I would dearly love to have someone to share new years with but it's never happened. Every year my siblings wish it to be 'my' year as they hate seeing me alone!

MumCat2020 · 01/01/2023 01:04

Yep, I have a DH and it was still a crap NYE. He is too grumpy and unsociable so refused to go out. And sat watching Strongman. I've been lying here all evening wondering if I want to stay with him!!! I crave independance. Maybe its a grass is always greener thing

MumCat2020 · 01/01/2023 01:04

Yep, I have a DH and it was still a crap NYE. He is too grumpy and unsociable so refused to go out. And sat watching Strongman. I've been lying here all evening wondering if I want to stay with him!!! I crave independance. Maybe its a grass is always greener thing

Pineappleskies · 01/01/2023 01:11

Really sad you feel like that. I've had a lovely evening in, turned down two invitations, ran a 10k race with one friend earlier then met another for coffee. Beautiful food, great chill tunes, working on my business plan and sipping prosecco in new pyjamas next to my gorgeous tree. Off hiking tomorrow. There's so much to be grateful for and so much we don't have to fixate on. Up to you.

Jellycatspyjamas · 01/01/2023 01:28

I watched the Avengers movies with my kids - great chat, lots of laughter and easy company. The best NYE I’ve had in years.

Lookingoutside · 01/01/2023 01:31

‘I crave independance. Maybe its a grass is always greener thing.’

@MumCat2020

The grass is very likely greener. Run!

SpinningFloppa · 01/01/2023 01:35

It is rubbish for me, 6 years single, doubt I will ever meet anyone again, seeing all the happy couples has been hard

Celia24 · 01/01/2023 01:39

I know, I feel somewhat the same OP. Hard to be alone when everyone seems to be living it up.

FurAndFeathers · 01/01/2023 01:40

Pineappleskies · 01/01/2023 01:11

Really sad you feel like that. I've had a lovely evening in, turned down two invitations, ran a 10k race with one friend earlier then met another for coffee. Beautiful food, great chill tunes, working on my business plan and sipping prosecco in new pyjamas next to my gorgeous tree. Off hiking tomorrow. There's so much to be grateful for and so much we don't have to fixate on. Up to you.

Yep similar.

happily single, just home after a lovely night of board games and Prosecco with couple- friends. Up early tomorrow for hiking and good food.
enjoy the life you have OP - you only get one!

Happy New Year!

MumCat2020 · 01/01/2023 01:43

Its definitely on my mind!! I want to be fun and spontaneous, and happy just being me with my kids.

TheCurseOfBoris · 01/01/2023 02:22

Half Glass Full Here

Bestcatmum · 01/01/2023 02:36

I've been in three relationships with awful men.
Living alone now is wonderful, I do what I want, when I want and have made plenty of friends I can go out with to these events if I want to.
There is no way I'm getting involved with a man again.
Lonely is being with someone who treats you like rubbish and doesn't care about you.
Life alone can be wonderful.