Need advice because im crushed

[Kajawe]

Ladies…please, don’t straight away say:’kick him out’,’end this’,’stay because of a child’….life it’s more complicated then that….I need YOUR POINT OF VIEW, put yourself in my shoes.that’s what I’m asking for.what YOU would do?Because I’m lost like never before….
im with my partner over 8years. Child, family, happy home, bla bla bla
He was always womaniser, flirty guy, etc but he stops.Stops because I’m supper possessive.He done little shot here and there and I forgive.I NEVER done anything to doubt in my love…
Everything was perfect. Sex is great. He always likes doing pictures when I’m looking nice in my little sexy stuff and durning the sex. He created special folder in his phone to keep all that pic and that’s fine.He is not watching porn but instead he is looking into his little keepsakes and enjoying.
Recently his best friend get a girlfriend and yesterday I found her completely naked pic in MY folder!!!!! He send it to him to show how nice she looks and instead checking,deleting and forgetting-he moved her pic into this folder,where he is checking VERY often…
I started shaking,every fibre of my body is saying I have enough.Im tired….
I didn’t argue.he said sorry million times and I just said that this time he fucked up nicely…I didn’t expect that!we are couple with 3kids!we together 8years!we still have all kind of sex every other day!!!!!!!!!!!!I keep myself in shape,im good with keeping home perfect,despite full time job!
I feel drained and he is doing THAT….Leave…how?and over photo?
stay?how?????rest of trust I had is gone…
he deliberately took photo out of chat with his friend and move to special folder!!!!it’s not like he forgot photo in general photo place …..
ok. What you would do? With broken soul,heart and mind…what you would do?

Im preparing for a talk today, when kids will go to sleep…
it’s not easy to just kick him out, as a rental contract is on both of us and no landlord will agree to change it only for a mum with 3 kids. I will manage without him, I’m sure.
but I have to be smart about that.about how I will say it and how I will leave with him being still in a house. And on top of that, my kids are teenagers so they will feel the atmosphere….
im planning to tell him that it was final straw and he is alone from now. I will take care of kids and myself but he overstepped to the point I can’t handle anymore.
new year, new live.
AND NO FRIKING MAN ANYMORE EVER!

Well I am a landlord and when my tenant told me her husband had assaulted her I changed the tenancy into her name only. She gets benefits that cover it since he left.

I would be reporting him to the police.

Omg that's awful,I'm so sorry. Please find a way to gell the girl involved. A crime has been committed against her by her own bf. She needs to be warned so she can protect herself.

Your partner not only didn't stand up to his sexual predator of a friend, he also saved the image! He is a beast too.

I know you don't want to hear ltb hon, but really in this scenario no one in their right mind could advise otherwise.

I may even report this to the police and let them handle it. Don't warn hubby. His phone needs to be checked for other victims photos.

*I'd maybe

I feel sorry for the girlfriend

Definitely tell the other woman. Maybe she does know and doesn't care. But if she doesn't, she deserves to know her private image is being used as wank material by other men. Men she sometimes sees in person. It's nasty.

I would work on dismissing him from my heart and eventually my life. No sudden actions. But he would henceforth be somebody I used to love.

OP do not blame yourself for this. Your partner did not do this because you weren't hot enough or good enough or didn't please him in bed. He did this because he is a sleaze that doesn't respect you or any woman.

If your partner had been unhappy with something in your relationship he should have talked to you and tried to solve it, or left you before looking for another.

He is a cheat and a sleazebag (and his mates sound no better) and that is in his nature. You can't change him and no one woman will ever be enough for him.

Blame your horrible patner do not blame yourself!

Wake up! He is sharing photos of you with his friend. Have some self respect