Would you be suspicious of this text

[Supercalafragalisti]

Me and my other half live at a distance, and have a very fulfilling relationship with constant contact and lots of love both sides. We did have some bad times and seem to have overcome them. So at the moment things are amazing and settled between us. Anyway this morning he sent me this picture message that had a loving sweet sentiment on it “being away from your lover is painful, but would rather that than ever love anyone else”

The problem is, it was forwarded. I honestly can’t think of any logical rational explanation for this apart from that another woman sent it to him. I’ve certainly not ever sent it to him and him resending it. It was on WhatsApp. My heads a bit all over the place. I have responded saying, that’s such a sweet and true message, but it was forwarded, so can I ask who sent it to you?

now I’m thinking if there’s another explanation I just look suspicious and mean.

so please tell me if there is or if you’d be wondering the same.

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Hi @Supercalafragalisti there is an option now on Watsapp to message your own number. He must of messaged it to himself then fw it onto you x

It's not necessarily impossible. I have a dual sim phone, so can send messages to myself on Sim 1 which would show as forwarded if I sent to Sim 2

I send stuff to myself from my work phone

Sorry OP, but I read your first sentence and knew it wouldn't be the real picture - "constant contact with lots of love of both sides" etc. Then he has "issues with boundaries" and so on... it sounds like you know it is not right and you are trying to convince yourself otherwise. Move on, when it's right you don't have to try this hard.

Do ypu know something, OP. I agree with those saying you aren't lucky and your bar is too low.

You are busy telling yourself that people are different etc and convincing yourself that your choice to trust him is down to your high self esteem no doubt.

Yet if you truly had high self esteem, you wouldn't tolerate this for a second because you'd believe you were worth more.

Instead, you have convinced yourself that you mustn't be suspicious and that you must trust him and that this speaks volumes for you and your mutual love and your relationship.

When, in fact, it does nothing of the sort.

You can send things to yourself on WhatsApp that’s correct. However if you forward something you wrote to yourself, it will not say forwarded. Try it for yourself and see.

That's an entirely different scenario though, using two sims is two different accounts.

OP I do respect your feelings but from experience would advise caution before settling down with this man unless you are incredibly resilient and able to cope with his flirting. He will never change and will always be attracted to other women which means a lifetime of pain for you. As time goes on this behaviour is only likely to get worse. If I’m misreading the situation then I apologise.

The message wouldn't make me at all suspicious. I trust my DH.

However, the second part of your posts - I can see why you are suspicious. He thinks it's OK to tell women he fancies them? Really? No wonder you don't trust him.

I broke up with him a couple of months ago, thanks for the messages

Sorry to hear this. Can I ask why in the end?

Definitely from another female and now he's feeding you BS. Plus flirting with others.... sounds like you've bagged yourself a liar!

You asked for objective opinions and then retaliate when people are honest with you? You are deluding yourself about this man and lashing out at objective advice you asked for. Cut this guy loose or just accept delusion , your choice

Good for you!

Good decision Op.