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A shout out to my DH

28 replies

Fireandflight · 25/12/2022 15:29

We were supposed to be going to our daughters's for Christmas lunch but I haven't been well. Upset stomach and diarrhea. So we stayed at home, DH saying he wasn't leaving me on my own on Christmas day.
He has done the cooking, all the washing up, brought me tea and made up my sachets.
After reading about all the shitty behaviour from some men at Christmas, this is just one who has pulled out all the stops today.

OP posts:
Summer2424 · 25/12/2022 15:33

@Fireandflight yay!! So nice of your DH 😊

Dweetfidilove · 25/12/2022 15:36

Merry Christmas to you both 🌲🌲

Ws2210 · 25/12/2022 15:37

The bar is in hell for men

Flakjacketon · 25/12/2022 15:51

Fireandflight · 25/12/2022 15:29

We were supposed to be going to our daughters's for Christmas lunch but I haven't been well. Upset stomach and diarrhea. So we stayed at home, DH saying he wasn't leaving me on my own on Christmas day.
He has done the cooking, all the washing up, brought me tea and made up my sachets.
After reading about all the shitty behaviour from some men at Christmas, this is just one who has pulled out all the stops today.

This could have been my post. Supposed to be at DDs, I have upset stomach and DH is being a hero. Happy Christmas.

bizzywiththefizzy · 25/12/2022 16:02

aww that's lovely give him a back slap from me😁🍺 and a beer .

MingeofDeath · 25/12/2022 16:12

Mine is currently making our tea after me doing nightshift last night.

ILoveAllRainbowsx · 25/12/2022 16:20

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PopUpMoon · 25/12/2022 16:45

Ws2210 · 25/12/2022 15:37

The bar is in hell for men

Yurp.

My ex has been here since the 23rd, (staying till the 27th) spending Christmas here at the request of our teens who have had a belly full of being driven cross country on Christmas Day.

It’s been like having another me here - he’s needed no instructions or directions, he’s just cracked on with whatever needed doing, including familiarising himself with my new kitchen/equipment and the Christmas Dinner timings list, he’s easily done half the prep, checking on, clearing up of the food/related items. He shopped for half of the food. The wrapping paper rubbish has left the building, the hoover has been swung around, things have been assembled, set up, etc. He’s now sorting pudding whilst I sit with my feet up and his dog is dozing on my lap.

Apparently this needs some sort of applause or whatever because he’s A Bloke.

It’s the easiest Christmas I’ve had since we split up a decade ago. Nobody who is in a supposedly loving relationship should be running themselves ragged as if they’re single (like I am actually am) every year.

VinoDino · 25/12/2022 16:47

Ws2210 · 25/12/2022 15:37

The bar is in hell for men

Isn't it just.

purpledalmation · 25/12/2022 16:47

FlowersGin

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 16:58

Cooking one meal, washing up and making tea is "pulling out all the stops"? 😕

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Fireandflight · 25/12/2022 17:02

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 16:58

Cooking one meal, washing up and making tea is "pulling out all the stops"? 😕

Actually yes, he's looked after me all day. What more could he do? I might have known there'd be someone along with a nasty comment. Just go away with your spitefulness.I have been showing DH the comments on here. Unfortunately you've spoiled it.

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tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 17:06

It's not spiteful, it's confusion as to how this is special rather than ordinary decent conduct. Looking after our loved ones is normal. You're the one being nasty.

You also obviously missed the multitude of other posters pointing out how low the bar is being set.

Splcam · 25/12/2022 17:11

Props to your husband for looking after you, he sounds like a lovely guy. Hope you feel better soon and seasonal felicitations to you both 🙂

JustKittenAround · 25/12/2022 17:17

Ws2210 · 25/12/2022 15:37

The bar is in hell for men

Right?!?

Breaking: Man Does Minimum of What He Should Do! Parade To Be Scheduled!

women are expected to do this and more but you’ll never see a thread about it… bar is so low and this thread really shows that…

ShornTheSheeep · 25/12/2022 17:37

He sounds lovely but honestly, this is just what women who are wives / mothers do every single day of their lives.

Newmama29 · 25/12/2022 17:41

MingeofDeath · 25/12/2022 16:12

Mine is currently making our tea after me doing nightshift last night.

Me too @MingeofDeath 😁he’s slaving away in the kitchen whilst I relax with a glass of wine & try not to fall asleep whilst watching Jack Frost with the toddler 😂

JoyBeorge · 25/12/2022 17:42

LTB!

GreyCarpet · 25/12/2022 17:43

This isn't a husband one but my 16 year old daughter.

She enjoys cooking. As it's just me, her and her brother, I got a chicken instead of a turkey. I put the chicken in the oven and when I came downstairs to do the rest, she'd already done it.

Almost single handedly done it all - pigs in blankets, regular stuffing, sausagemeat stuffing, garlic and rosemary roast potatoes, prepped all the veg... apparently she's doing the rest of it too so she can say she did it!

whatwouldAnnaDelveydo · 25/12/2022 17:48

Ws2210 · 25/12/2022 15:37

The bar is in hell for men

I will use this from now on!

Typo22 · 25/12/2022 18:00

So nice to hear about a nice DP!

My DH was feeling ill yesterday (I'm just getting over the flu and was worried he was starting with it) and I suggested we put the meat back in the freezer and have a buffet lunch as we had my family coming over.

DP was so determined to give us the Christmas Dinner he had been planning he still did all the prep and cooking today and yesterday (I am useless in the kitchen and was panicking at the thought that I might have to do it) and has been the perfect host/husband/parent.

I'm not sure what I ever did to deserve such a kind and wonderful DH but I'm bloody lucky 😊

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 25/12/2022 18:04

Fireandflight · 25/12/2022 17:02

Actually yes, he's looked after me all day. What more could he do? I might have known there'd be someone along with a nasty comment. Just go away with your spitefulness.I have been showing DH the comments on here. Unfortunately you've spoiled it.

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Dear god op. You are literally giving him the parade a pp mentioned by showing him all the comments!

but if he is usually a lazy arse who needs written instructions to be an adult but has stepped up today, it must be a relief for you.

WoosteriaLane · 25/12/2022 18:11

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 17:06

It's not spiteful, it's confusion as to how this is special rather than ordinary decent conduct. Looking after our loved ones is normal. You're the one being nasty.

You also obviously missed the multitude of other posters pointing out how low the bar is being set.

He acted like the average woman for one day which warrants a "shout out".

EarthSight · 25/12/2022 18:35

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 17:06

It's not spiteful, it's confusion as to how this is special rather than ordinary decent conduct. Looking after our loved ones is normal. You're the one being nasty.

You also obviously missed the multitude of other posters pointing out how low the bar is being set.

This. It's lovely that the husband does this, but this is simply being supportive and loving....isn't that what relationships should be....rather it being something extra special?

Yes, a lot of men don't do that, and it's good to reflect on this and be thankful for the little things. However, isn't it amazing the adoration that men get for doing relationship & household basics?🤔

TedMullins · 25/12/2022 18:40

Dear god, a man doesn’t need a medal for doing normal things a partner should do. I wouldn’t accept any less than a partner who cared for and respected me and him looking after me while I was ill would be par for the course (as I would do for him). The fact that this is seen as something worthy of praise when men do it is why so many men get away with doing naff all.