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If your child’s father has never met your child, why is that?

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Grplj · 11/12/2022 18:21

I posted earlier today about a situation I am in with a new ish relationship (not sure how to link the thread?!) A poster suggested I ask this question instead… is there ever a ‘good’ reason a dad wouldn’t want to know their dc?

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TERRRYsnotmine · 12/12/2022 14:04

GeorgiaGirl52 · 12/12/2022 07:28

Close friend of mine, happily married, both working, had their first child,
DD1. Husband pleased. Suggested they have a second close together so they would be friends. (Husband had a twin and was very close to him.) Along comes DD2. Husband pleased but really wanted a SON, so let's try again.
Have DS, who is born seriously handicapped and parents are told he will not live past two years old. Wife quits her job to care for DS and the two preschool DDs.
Husband takes a job that pays more but requires travel during the week.
Husband says they should try again as DS1 will die and he wants a healthy DS.
DS2 is born. Fine, beautiful, healthy boy.
Husband packs up and moves back to live with his mother and brother. Sends his wife a note that "Four children are too much. They get on his nerves." He never pays maintenance or has visitation. His mother pays what she can afford and babysits DS1 so mother can return to work.

Not been funny but I would have stopped after DS!!

mindutopia · 12/12/2022 21:42

My good friend’s dd has never met her dad. He disappeared when she was 12 weeks pregnant (literally packed up the house while she was at work one day 🙄) and went off to live with someone else (who he eventually married and had dc with). His reason for never meeting her was that he wanted a perfect family and once he ran off with someone else, it was no longer perfect so it was easier to just pretend his dd never existed.

I know someone else who has no relationship with his dd’s (though he did have contact with them until they were teens). His explanation is that his crazy ex turned them against him because she wanted more money in the divorce. The actual reason is that he sexually abused them (he pled guilty) and his dd’s cut him off. They’re in their 30s now and have had nothing to do with him since he was arrested.

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