What would you think?

[anyonefortea21]

DH invited me to meet his colleagues yesterday at a drinks and bowling night. Everyone was lovely and welcoming. One of his female colleagues cheerily greeted me hello, v friendly, when l looked back again she was still looking at me in the eyes (smiling, nothing antagonistic!), it just felt like a few seconds longer than usual social norms would dictate. That is all.

For context, I was dressed up and made up and looked pretty good (compared to my usual mum slacks! 🤣) and standing right in front of her, there is no funny business with DH and this colleague (or any other!).

How would you interpret this?

Maybe she thought you looked nice.
Was checking out your outfit?

Almost impossible to say really, could be a few things

• wow I love her hair / makeup
• oh she really looks like xxx / looks familiar
• her mind drifted and she didn't realise she was staring
• her eyesight isn't that great so was having to REALLY look hard to see you
• maybe she's socially awkward

How does DH scrub up compared to you?

Could be she thought DH is punching (or vice versa, sorry!)

If she was friendly at that point and also for the rest of the evening I wouldn't think too much more. See how she is next time.

I wouldn't interpret it. Someone looked at you. People do it all the time.

Why do you feel it needs interpreting?

Maybe she fancies you?

Why have you started another thread about this?

Are you hoping for different answers?

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4695806-what-would-you-think

Absolutely nothing happened. 🙄

Perhaps she was expecting a continuation of the hello conversation? and you just blanked her?

I guess it means she liked you and you made a good impression

Did you have lipstick on your teeth?

Maybe it confirmed to her why he never gave HER a second glance.

My brothers wife does the same thing to me and I can’t work it out either. Always catch her staring, it’s very strange but maybe just socially awkward like a previous poster said.

Thank you all so much for your responses. @Itwasntevenblackpudding I started in this section then thought maybe it should be in AIBU instead hence the double posting. Not sure it fits there either!

This is all totally internal, DH is a wonderful, loving man who adores me (and tells me so every day!), he would never hurt me and we trust each other completely. This all relates to past severe trauma and sadly every now and then the smallest obscure thing will trigger me. It helps to share to remind myself that my thoughts can occasionally become irrational and to pull myself back from a negative thought loop. Also probably being in the throes of moving house and highly stressed doesn't help matters!! Thanks again all x