can we have a thread about how we WISH they would initiate sex

[lucyellensmum]

Personally, i wish my DP would be a little more assertive (you know, enthusiastic) about things.

So, to be thrown on the bed would be a start, oh and definately talking dirty, but most importantly, kissing, with tongues.

I can live in hope

Ooh.

Cook me a nice meal.
Do the washing up.
Not sit watching crap on the telly afterwards.
Nice massage.
Talk to me.
Kissing.

And even better, if this was a regular thing, not just something he did when he was after sex

I always like the 'kitchen stroking and compliments approach' myself.

Or how about: 'I have sent the ironing away to be done by someone else, you now have three hours, your first hour will be spent in this lovely bath I have run you, for the following two hours, I am your slave......'

hmm
variety
enthusiasm

I feel a bit mean about the other thread, at least they are all trying. I don't really care how he asks me as long as he keeps asking

Agree with F&Z diligence over apathy anytime

anything on the other thread would be an improvement for me

just kinda well wanting to

i don't get it, he loves me, i'm nice, i'm sexy, i'm good-looking, i mind him, what gives?

maybe this is another thread altogether with a sort of help me feel and lots of

or maybe i should just go and jump on him
i did buy some suspenders the other day
i asked him about the other thread and he said
"what are you on about NOW"

now let's hear all those fantasies

stuffit what happens if you suggest sex? Did he used to suggest it more?

My thoughts exactly. I think he just thinks if he initiates he'll be rejected so he just waits for me to. He's always more than willing though- it just isn't very romantic for me!

well yes soph it's not romantic
fran he is sort of accepting but it's largely my job
ages ago he said he got put off when the children were younger and I used to be totally uninterested

but that's not for years and years and in the intervening time i've shown plenty of enthusiasm and tried to make up for it

i get a lot of eye-rolling

i think i'm going to have to stop this
i hate feeling sorry for myself!
i'm going to try to remedy things RIGHT NOW

rl rules
(but the sympathy is so lovely and thank you)

Lots of long romantic kisses for me

ooh, a beautiful meal cooked for me with a deep and meaningful conversation whilst eating, then a bath run for me with a glass of champagne by the bath too.. then a nice massage..

Stuffitall it sounds like confidence on his part. Could you make a pact that a) he will ask you at least once a week and b) you will not turn him down (if you absolutely can't face it right then you could say something like "oh YES PLEASE can I just finish this laundry and have a cup of tea, I can hardly wait big boy" type of thing? )

actually scratch all that i don't think I am cut out as sex counsellor

I would also probably remove 'porno film script writer' from your potential job offers.

(Am a bit PMSL at 'oh YES PLEASE can I just finish this laundry and have a cup of tea, I can hardly wait big boy')

(Are all meetups going to be plagued by MNers hanging about in doorways and rubbing their hands now, while snickering?)

I'm with you stuffitall. My Dh thinks if I initiate I either want another baby or am JUST in a giving mood, no sex for me just a hand job or oral sex for him !

Kissing would be fab followed by lots of passionate foreplay. During the week not on Saturday night !

I would say cook me a nice meal but the thought of underdone scrambled egg on toast doesn't fill me with enthusiasm .

We can dream.......

i got humphed again .. nicely.. but humphed
as in humphed not humped

I think you might be right about the confidence franny, but more at work than at home.. but it spreads out doesn't it?

and thanks for the at can i have a cup of tea before i shag you big boy

ho ho ho
as if I would ever get propositioned while doing the laundry but hope springs eternal

actually i think you definitely should try out as a porno film script writer and put your efforts on here as it will brighten all our days CONSIDERABLY!

I agree
NQC knows nothing
my porno film script writing would have the RING OF TRUTH (unfortunate double entendre there but shall push on regardless and hope no-one notices)
this is what is happening in utility rooms all over the country EVERY DAY:

"YES PLEASE can I just finish this laundry and have a cup of tea, I can hardly wait big boy"

at pushing on through the ring of truth. And hoping you're at least using lube ...

complete hijack (instead of minor one)
you know those boats we went on NQC, on the lake?
I have bought one for ds because I thought it would be a good idea to put it in the garden and fill it with sand. is this, in fact, a good idea or a major error? I am chickening out and they are delivering it next week

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Pruners go on.......

Pruni doesn't need her dh to initiate sex
she just puts her vest on and off he goes

I would love to be handled like they do in all the romance novels i read! (some hope) i get ' fancy a quicky' if im lucky!

Vests can be quite effective

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